Hot Girls Who Are Ugly By Comparison

Here's a simple technique that can get you not the hottest girls, but girls much hotter than the normal foreigner gets in Japan. In fact, these girls will only look hot AFTER you've seen them a second time. You'll see why later. If you're not going for the most popular, hard-to-get A-class girls then you can skip this one. If you're stubborn and think you deserve to date out of your league, then this is for you!

First, a note on hotness. Foreigners in Japan usually get girls who are average or even below average. A 5 is average, and foreigners, most of the time, date within the 3 to 6 range. But, you must know that most foreigners rate these girls 8s or 9s, because, as they say, "she's cute to me." NuBreed Nampa doesn't care what you think or what we think, we care what everyone thinks, thus we care what the Japanese guys who hit on them think, because that determines a girl's popularity and her need to settle for a guy less than her ideal. And since the average girls are largely ignored by desirable Japanese guys, they are--quite obviously--average 5s.

Anyone who knows anything knows that you can't simply walk up to any 8 (which is extremely hot, BTW) expecting to get her. You'd have to try quite a few just to get a phone number. But something I've noticed, is that in the presence of 8-9s, A-class 6-7s appear average, and no guys hit on them! You yourself may not even notice them. It took me years to realize this! In fact, many of these 6-7s may be actually waiting to be hit on!

Trance Dance Club

I used to go to this club in Osaka called Joule (useless homepage here) where all the tan-blond gyarus (examples: 1, 2, 3) and other beautiful girls go to dance to trance music. I was completely ineffective on the dancefloor because I'm not Japanese, I'm not a gyaru guy, it's loud, girls are interested in the DJ and not the guys around them, etc. Plus it's so loud in there that I can't even talk to my friends, which requires much less effort than talking to new girl I want to sleep with. In short, I say it's impossible for a white foreigner to pick up the 8-9s on that loud, smoky dance floor. I gave up trying.*

Besides the hot 8s and 9s on the dance floor with their friends, there are still plenty of 6-7s to be had. In this club, they are the lower class (besides foreigners, of course!). These girls are still cute and may even been the same age as some of the 8-9s. Some may actually be more physically beautiful too, it's just that they aren't dressing as glamorously. And they just might be waiting for some guys to talk to them! All the guys are focused on the 8-9s on the dance floor, so these 6-7s could be lonely! I got myself a few nice girls this way.

The Beach

I wasn't planning on mentioning the beach here, but writing the above I was reminded that the beach is the exact same situation! On the beach (or in any club for that matter**) I would always find the hottest girl and work my way down. I'd either lose on her, note that she's with a BF, or note that she's in a crowd and keep my eye on her. On any given day on the beach there could be as many as 50 girls 7.5 or higher! That's the highest concentration ever! I would work my (non) magic and talk to them. After a couple hours I would be dead tired and disheartened that I only got the numbers of a couple out of the 30-40 girls I talked to. They might have been 8s, but the chances of a beach 8 replying is close to zero (want to ask me how I know that?).

A couple times I picked up a 6.5 or 7 on the beach, enjoyed her company, had sex, etc. Off the top of my head I can remember three that actually came up to me because guys weren't talking to them! I closed the deal on all of them. But, what really made me understand what was going on were two girls in particular. I was in Japan 3-4 years at this point so it was nothing I realized quickly. I hit on a girl, but ended up getting her friend's number and nailing her. At the time I wasn't interested in that 7 on a beach full of 8-9s! But, looking at her pics while not on the beach, she was cute!

And finally, another one was when I hit on a blond. She was friendly, but passed me to her friend because "she like gaijin." I dated that friend for several months and I don't think anyone would deny that she was cute. I've showed her picture around more than usual because she was actually my GF for a time and both Japanese and foreign guys liked her a lot. She was very important to me for the better part of a year. And to think that I almost didn't get her because I was stupid and let my eyes be distracted by by blond hair and suntans. She wasn't an 8, but she was a 7, and I was very happy with that.

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So anyway, that's just something I learned. If you're not going for the hottest girls anyway then this post isn't for you. Maybe you're not as stubborn as me and think you deserve the most popular girls in the first place, so maybe this post should be a lesson to only to myself!?


* You're damn right I was waiting for them as they left the dance floor for the bar or the bathroom though! ;)
** And now at work, for that matter. Ha!

Ashamed to Be With Foreigners

Simple Explanation

First I'll tell you how it is: in Japan, we are not the norm. We might be said to be handsome, but we are not viewed as cool, normal, mainstream, or acceptable. We're the equivalent of a handsome black man like Denzel Washington or Will Smith going to try to pick up girls in a town where half the men are white supremacists or KKK members. If that's not enough to convince you, read on to the next scenario.

Jessie, Lindsey, and Their Town

Jessie is a white girl in a fairly normal town in the USA. The town is predominately white, about 75%, with 10% being Hispanic, and 10% black. The other 5% are Arab or "other" and they don't generally leave their respective groups. Jessie is extremely gorgeous, as is her best friend Lindsey. They're both thin, blond, and guys hit on them every day. They only date the muscular guys who dance around and aren't too nice to the girls. You might call them wiggers, tools, or douchebags, but regardless, these dudes are the only ones getting the girls. Josh and Cody are these guys. They were Jessie and Lindsey's ex-boyfriends. Jessie was talking to one of Josh and Cody's friends afterwards, but it didn't work out.

Enter Kang and Ji

One day, when walking through the mall, Kang and Ji two Chinese guys, introduce themselves to Jessie and Lindsey. Kang and Ji speak pretty good English, but if you walked by them you'd be sure they were fresh off the boat. Actually, they're both 28 years old and just finished grad school in the US and have decent jobs. They've both been in the US for 5 years. You wouldn't call them handsome as they are really short and skinny and have the Chinese hairstyle Americans think of as "messy." In all, they're nice guys, but no one takes the time to find that out.

Jessie and Lindsey do, though. They exchange numbers and go on a double date with these guys. The go to the local bar and grill and have some burgers and a few drinks. They're having a good time until Josh, Cody, and all of their friends show up. Josh and Cody snicker at the girls for being with the Chinese guys because they're different and not cool like them. Kang and Ji ignore the comments but Jessie and Lindsey feel embarrassed.

Enter Loud Group of Guys

Another group of guys sitting near who don't even know Jessie and Lindsey. Many of them scream remarks in loud voices, "What are those hot girls doing with those foreigners?" "Those guys are dangerous!" "They're not normal!" "They never have any money!" "They probably have AIDS!" "They are really poor and only come to the world's number one country to rape our women!" "Dangerous!"

This goes on a for while and although Jessie and Lindsey liked Kang and Ji, after they finish their drinks they go home and never talk to them again. They even change their phone numbers because they are too cowardly to tell Kang and Ji that the real reason they can't hang out with them is because of what OTHER people think.

Poor Kang and Ji have had this happen on many occasions. They always get cockblocked by these jerkoff American losers who in 5 years will not have good jobs and will be fat and broke paying child support to 3 different women. But, for now, they have to deal with it.

Kang and Ji Find Girls

Kang and Ji have to settle for some chunky girls, Becky and Katie, with glasses who they met on campus. These girls are 21, but they aren't what you'd call beautiful. They are really interested in Kang and Ji though because they have many chances to practice their Chinese language skills on them. Kang and Ji don't really know what the hell they're trying to say, but they humor them because they want to have sex with someone. In fact, there are several girls studying Chinese at their school and, while none of them are cute, they can pretty much have their pick. They know the girls are using them for language and cultural understanding, but they're using the girls for sex, so it's okay. At least when they go back to China they can tell their friends they had sex with some "hot" American girls. Their friends won't know they're not hot. All white people look alike to them.

And that's your story, folks. If you can make sense of that and change the actors you've just been shown how cute Japanese girls feel when being picked up by foreigners. Hope you enjoyed that!

Characters

Kang - You
Ji - Your best friend
Jessie & Lindsey - Hot Japanese girls
Josh & Cody - Gyaru-o
Guys in Bar - Jealous Japanese guys
Becky & Katie - Milkers
Bar & Grill - Izakaya
USA - Japan

Note: No racist comments have been made by the author nor should any be assumed. Any derogatory statements have been used as an explanation method and are not the views of anyone at NuBreed Nampa.

Practice Date

This is something that came to me the other day when I was thinking about this girl. I haven't tried it yet. I was thinking of trying it on a girl at work who, if turned me down for a date, I would save massive face by saying that it's not a real date, but a practice date.

Don't get it?

Hard-to-Schedule Girl

So, you get a girl's number and you're mailing (texting) with her trying to get her to date* you. Japanese girls, especially the ones I call 7.5s and above, are pretty hard to schedule. Going on a date with a gaijin isn't their top priority. If their friends can come it might be fun for an hour or two and then they leave you to do their own thing (ask me how I know this!). She leaves being able to tell everyone that they hung out with a foreigner and you leave what you thought was going to be a romantic date pissed off with a droopy pecker. I'm getting way off-topic here, but it just goes to show that....

Hot girls have better things to do than hang out with you (such as sit on the floor by Lawson and paint their nails). They might be interested in hanging out with you, but not dating you romantically. Or, they likely would "let you" have sex with her IF the conditions were right. Whose job is it to create those conditions? Let's hope you can answer that for yourself.

So, she can't go out with you one-on-one because you're a handsome, seductive guy who made her slightly horny the first time you were around her. She wants to go, but since you refuse to let her show up with her friend, she's planning on turning you down. Nothing you can say will convince her, except maybe saying that you'll meet for one hour for coffee right by her house or something like that. Sure, you might get a purikura with her, but that's a huge waste of your time. So, you just tell her that you can only meet her in the evening in a certain spot, alone, or else you can't meet her at all. She stops mailing you. Unless!....

Possible Solution

You tell her it's a "practice date"! You say, "No no no, we're not going on a date date, it's a practice date." And she'll ask you what you mean by that. You tell her that you'll be going on dates in the future and likely so will she. So you will go though the motions of a date, but you'll both do it knowing that it's practice!

Women's Psychology

Now will it really be practice? No, it won't. The girl, if she comes, will come only because she was allowed to say it was practice. She needs to save face so she doesn't feel like a slut. She needs an excuse to go and saying that the date is only practice just might work. During the date you act normally and you take her home after and have sex with her. She only wanted you for sex anyway since she's never had sex with a foreigner, so the next day she changes her email address and never talks to you again. You ALLOWED her to get what she wanted without feeling slutty about it. She gave you what you wanted, rather, you gave yourself what you wanted! Congratulations! Now would you rather have had sex with this girl once and have her never talk to you again, or would you rather just have her flake? Yeah.

Is this guaranteed to work? No. Will it? Don't know. Would I try it if she refused to give me a Level 1 date and I had no other tricks up my sleeve? Absolutely!


* After the "Mystery Boom" (as I'll from here on out call it), a one-on-one get-together including a guy (who likes girl) and a girl who have met each other recently has, by guys in the "PU-community," suddenly stopped being called a "date" and has reverted to the old term "hang-out." Hang out was not popular in the 80s and 90s, rather, we said "date." In the 90s the term "hang-out" came back into the language forcefully, and after the Mystery Boom PUAs started to use that to replace "date" as to make the get-together seem more friendly. Thus the girl, thinking it's not a date, figures the guy has no romantic expectations of her and she is more likely to go on the DATE.

The Hottest or the Easiest?: The 1-Point & 2-Point Separation Rules

Have you ever been in a situation where you know two girls you can potentially sleep with but since they know each other, you can only choose one of them? I used to have that problem but now I have a couple rules that help me make the decision. You kind of have to understand the objective rating scale for this to work (*see below).

The 1-Point Separation Rule:
pick the easier of the two
take the easiest of the two if they are separated by 1 point or less on the rating scale

A sure 6 is much better than an unsure 7 just as a sure 7 is much better than an unsure 8. Look at risk vs reward: you're only getting one point of reward but taking a risk of getting nothing from either. Remember, you can't go for the hottest one, fail, and then go for the other one! (or could you? Hmm....)

Exceptions would be when you get into the higher ranges your own experiences would come into play. For example, I don't know anyone who's nailed a 9.5 but I personally have had some 8.5s. So if it were me I would go all-or-nothing for the rare 9.5. If you're relatively new, though, I would obey the 1-point rule here because an easy 8.5 is NOT easy to come by!

The 2-Point Separation Rule:
pick the hotter of the two
try for the hottest of two if they are separated by two or more points on the rating scale

Let's say you meet a 6 who is mildly attractive and probably pretty easy. But you're not hard up and know you can get 6s relatively easily. And then you have her friend, an 8. She doesn't seem too interested in you so if you choose her you might end up with nothing.

So a 6 in the hand or an 8 to coax out of the bush? For me it's a no brainer. As is a sure 7 vs an unsure, very rare 9. You don't get 8s everyday but you can probably get 6s pretty often. Take the risk! The only exceptions might be a 3 vs 5 or 4 vs 6, where you don't care too much either way so just take the easy one night stand.

*(The rating scale says that 5s are average, 6s are cute, 7s are hot, 8s are really hot, 9s are amazing, 10s don't exist.)

Email & Hunting Game

I had an email exchange with someone who mailed me after reading my blog. He mailed, I mailed back, and here are his responses to my mail:

Nubreed: Right before I left I learned how to have sex with girls on the beach. You probably need a wing, but you only need him to isolate the other girl during the other 10 minutes when you're banging.

PD: Very interesting. I've gamed on the beach and at the pool, but the O [name edited] and I don't know how to take things further. Where do you take them to have sex on the beach? Is this done at night or something?

NuBreed: BTW, here's a hunting game I used to play with my friends. You can teach [your friend]. When you go home, you have to have over 10 points. Scoring:

*10 pts: getting a girl's number
*8 pts: talking to a girl for a few min and asking for number (and not getting it)
*1 pt: making a serious attempt to talk to a girl, regardless of her reaction
*1 pt: passing a girl your business card or paper with number on it (because they only reply 10% of the time)
*-1 pt: just waving, saying "hi" only, or any other half ass attempt
*-1 pt: seeing a SINGLE girl walking slow or standing alone very open to be talked to and not talking to her

PD: Sounds cool. At the rate [my friend] gets numbers on the street I think he'd be in triple digits pretty fast.

It's funny because recently I came up with a pickup "Game" of my own. It was a lot more complicated and I'll be posting about it in the Pickup Lounge before posting the first FR. I'm sure it won't be everyone's cup of tea but I certainly had some fun with it and it definitely improved my game.

NuBreed: Did you like my little "PUA Quadrant?"

PD: I checked out your quadrant from your blog. Very interesting concept.

NuBreed: Situations like this is what I feel I was good at. I didn't have routines or kino (I NEVER touch them)

PD: Now this is really interesting. O is a bit of a fan of yours too and he'll be blown away when I tell him you NEVER touch them. In the past I've had a reputation as the "Iceman" because I never made any physical moves. O though, is the complete opposite. He says he has to hold himself back because he naturally wants to kino them. We ran into some problems using too much kino last time and I'll go into that in a later FR. Fascinating that you don't use it at all in the early stages.

NuBreed: I know the exact time the last trains come in, so by her location, dress, and walking direction, I can tell make an educated guess where she lives and where she's going! I simply walk up and say, "Hey, aren't you from Sakai?" If no, I say, "Oh, thought I saw you there, anyway....blah blah blah." But if I'm right, I'll just be like, "Yeah, my friend lives there. I swear I saw you at the station!" And there you go, I'm in. That's why the rating scale is so important too. Clothing is a window into their personality.

PD: This is hardcore and very impressive. I like the concept of cold-calling because it's so much more interesting than asking questions. I often say "You play basketball" or whatever, instead of "What sport do you play?" That way I'm either a psychic or they have to refute it. You're taking it a step even further with your knowledge of Osaka and their clothing etc. I'll have to work on this.

PD.

Are You a PUA, NuBreed?

Even when the pickup acronyms weren't outdated the majority of them seemed pretty childish to me; except the ones I made up myself. ;) The labeling thing seems stupid, but we all do it subconsciously when judging if guys are fit to be our friends. If I'm a dart-player and fisherman and you are too, then we'll get along. It's just that we don't call ourselves "DP" or "fisherman," rather, we say, "Hey, you like to fish too? Man, we should hang out sometime," and someday you fish together. "Are you a PUA?" sounds dumb, and I'd never say it, but we used to ask new guys we'd meet: "So, how are the ladies treating you?" Depending on their answers, we might have a beer with them sometime and afterward talk to a few girls. Same process but just doesn't sound as weird as "Are you a PUA and if so will you be my wing to sarge some sets?"

So although I don't like the label, if PUA means "guy who's devoted a certain period of his life to attempting to pick up increasingly hotter girls by continuing to study them," then I'm no exception to the PUAs in "The Game," just not as lame. Any way you slice it I am a guy who picks up girls. I didn't go to Japan to improve my lifestyle, learn which songs to sing at karaoke, or learn about fashion. I went to pick up hot, so I'd say I'm "certainly a PUA." And although I don't do it the way Mystery teaches I've never met anyone in Japan who does it Mystery's way who picks up girls any hotter than the average girls I got my first year or two in Japan. If pickup skill has three levels--3-good, 2-average, 1-bad--I and most of the guys I was/am friends with in Japan found themselves going from 2 to 3 at some point. I think the Mystery-style stuff is only good for helping someone go from 1 to 2, but those techniques can never move you past 3. You have to do that on your own. When I tried it I think I went from 3 back to 2. It's like riding a tricycle. Sure, the tricycle's easy to learn and will get you to the next neighborhood, but when you finally take the time to learn to ride a bicycle (i.e. study Jap, study women) you can go faster and further with less effort.

Japanese Cockblockers

I think I've experienced being cockblocked by Japanese guys on the street as much as anyone simply because I was always hunting in the vicinity of Japanese pick-up guy. I don't really have a highly successful way to deal with it, so if a golden rule is what you seek, skip this article! There is some insight about the situation and thoughts about what to do about it.

Japanese Guys Doing Pickup

When I learned pickup I didn't read books by American gurus, I watched Japanese nampa guys. Here are a few types:

• 1) Some are good - so good that you rarely notice them--they don't look like they're hunting
• 2) Some are direct - they come up from behind and throw out a barrage of questions, often with their wing's mouth moving just as fast
• 3) And some are shy - they'll sit with their 10 buddies and push each other for 5-10 minutes to go to talk to one seated girl. Then after he starts talking they all jump out and attack her

How Japanese Guys Cockblock You & What To Do About It

1. Good Nampa Guys
The good nampa guys will likely not do anything when you're talking to a girl. They don't fit in the category of cockblocking. They can't, because they're nice guys. If they do, I'm automatically switching them to type 2 or 3, because, for that time anyway, they are being very direct and/or shy pussies.

2a. The Direct Guys
These guys can be stereotyped as hosts, although some aren't. These guys have really hurt me over the years. They are not shy and they are always warmed up. They talk to girls for a living. You can of course tell hosts by their clothes and with a little observation you can tell the daily nampa guys too by their clothes and demeanor. They aren't what you'd call respectable-looking. Girls who talk to gaijin (that is, nearly every girl we've ever talked to) will 80-90% of the time say they don't like these guys. My theory is that they like these guys but since they can't get the handsome ones they've convinced themselves to hate them.

These direct guys hurt you by simply walking right up and talking to the girl while you're there. The main line they use is, "Why are you talking to a foreigner" or something similar to make the girl feel inadequate for talking to gaijin. You really need to be prepared to get out of this one. One that really does work is to play dumb like this and say to the girl: "Hey? Do you know him too? Wow, that's funny, you saw me (your brother's friend, etc) and now you see this guy...." and if you continue talking longer he'll assume that you know her and leave you alone. If someone interrupts you might say that the girl is your student, and he might disappear. If you have to comment on the gaijin issue it has to be a comment that makes her feel it's cool to talk to gaijin. Actually that's not your goal, it doesn't matter how she feels, it matters how he thinks she feels! If he really thinks she wants to be talking to you he's gone. If she doesn't feel that it's cool to talk to you and if he is still standing there she'll stop talking to you out of embarrassment. So the key is to make him think that you're not picking her up.

Another thing I think that would work is a lot of the Pickup community AMOG tactics a lot of foreigners use on other gaijin in the bars. I'm not too familiar with them but know a few. When the hostboy comes up you can say to the girl, "Oooohh, he's cute! You told me that you like hosts, right?" Then, at that point, "gaijin" isn't the word that's embarrassing, it's "host." And if she feels embarrassed about that she might take a step away from him and he might leave. My main defense has always been to speak loudly and quickly to show the guy that she's actively involved in a conversation, in Japanese, she's focused on me, and that you aren't in our circle. I'd say this defers a good number of cockblock attempts before they begin, but not all especially:

2b. Direct Nampa from Vehicles
A huge problem I've had is with the guys who drive around in their painted vans hunting girls out the window. The have really, REALLY hurt me over the years. The girls sometimes go up to the car and talk to the guys while you're standing there looking like a dummy. I don't know how to deal with this. Even if the girls don't talk to the guys, just their presence is enough to make girls lose interest. Tip: if you notice these guys driving by looking at you and the girls, know that they will go around the block and be back again! Move the girls off of the road and preferably, out of sight!

Tip: these guys will show up only upon first talking to girls. If they see you first go up and hunt the girls and see that the girls stop to talk to your insignificant gaijin monkey butt then they think the girls are easy targets. These direct guys will never sit around watching for 5 minutes before they go cockblock you, that would make them type 3.

3. Shy Guys
Some guys will sit around a location where there are several girls sitting. I'm thinking HEP5 in Osaka. The girls sit, the guys sit. You can watch the guys watching the girls. They don't notice you yet, other than just a gaijin on vacation or something. You can sit and watch them for 10 minutes or more and if they haven't already they never go talk to the girls they are looking at. However, when you decide to go talk to the girls, BAM! They are right there within seconds! I've seen this and theorized with my friend Amanojack about this. We couldn't put two and two together, but we did conclude this: these guys will sit and stare at the girl until the girls leave. If Japanese hosts or nampa guys nampa them they won't budge. The only time they will move if is a gaijin talks to them. It's baffling to me. I would assume that if some drunk old men or loser guys came up to talk to the girls that the shy guys would also move in for the kill at this time thinking 'If the girls talk to those losers/old men/foreigners they'll talk to us!' A case of feeling insufficient, huh?

About solutions, here it's a bit harder because you don't have to get rid of just one guy, you have to get rid of all of them! They know you don't know her too because they've been sitting there stalking her for the past 10 minutes. If you read the above you would have seen how they always push their friend to go for it and after he talks the rest of the guys attack on cockblock each other. Well, you've just become the first friend and I have no clue what to do about this! You can try the solutions above, but you have to convince several guys instead of just one. Tough! 頑張れ、コンパドレー！

How to Schedule Fussy Girls

This essay was selected from many to post for all to see. I actually thought I had it on the site already. If you want to know who I am and how I think, in this article you'll learn. There are some really deep explanations of certain thinking patterns. There isn't a perfect translation of the Japanese, however, I do explain most of it below the text. I really think this will help you learn how you should treat girls who are used to having things a certain way. I guess you'd call this your "frame." It might take you 10 minutes to read though, but if I didn't recommend reading it to help you get hotter girls it wouldn't be up here. Spending a few hours to read this site should really raise the learning curve...yes, you still have to study Japanese on your own! ;)

How to Schedule Fussy Girls

by NuBreed

I usually only give advice on the basics. It’s not flashy, so I don’t know if anyone thinks it’s useful. Is my advice too plain and boring? Maybe. But it’s worked for me. I truthfully think the basics, common sense, and experience are much more useful than anything considered “high level” by me, friends, or anything in a PUA book. But I’ve had this dialog with myself: 'Nobody cares about my little tricks that will only be useful once in a great while. They stem from my experience in certain situations. They are different from the little tricks taught by masters to inexperienced guys who may not even understand pickup basics. Since my tricks, stats, and experience are different from a what a guru might advise, I think guys tend to dismiss them.'

I no longer listen to what someone less experienced tells me what I shouldn’t do if it’s already been proven to work for me. I will value gestures and consider advice, but not in an area I’m successful. And the things that I hear that do work, if I’ve already tried them, I will dismiss them unless if it’s a new solution to something I failed at before. Many people actually dismiss any new idea upon hearing it, not just PUA tactics. However, when I have time to think alone, my original guards of keeping everyone out of my head are brought down and I ponder the idea. Only then do I choose to discard it or test it (the last time I tested a new idea of “insta-”s it resulted in 6 insta-makeouts in 5 weeks, half leading to [insta-]sex. Thanks AJ). This time I’m not going to hold back and will share the thoughts I had during mail conversation with a stubborn 18 yo. A Japanese friend and I picked her and her friend up at a matsuri. It’s not a template per se, but indicative of how, if you say the right things, you can turn a probable flake into a date. Also remember, I learned everything through trial and error of picking up J-girls, so what I think might be different than what you’re used to hearing. Anyway, here’s one way to use email (text) to schedule a fussy girl:

She (9/1 12:13) NuBreedごめん！携帯止まっとった！祭のしょうこやけど覚えてる？
　　　　　I’d picked her up a few days before but she didn’t write back and apparently didn’t get the mail or two I sent during that time. I was surprised to get this mail as I thought she had already flaked, which would be expected by the way I picked her up: in a mall; l after talking for 10 minutes; just before the fireworks started; with a can of beer in my hand.

Me (9/2 15:56): Wow! 生きてるんや！笑　うん、覚えてんで～　携帯直ってよかったね。今日その辺で遊んでんの？
　 　　　　This mail shows her that I remember her, am in good spirits, have time to write back now (by the question), and am capable of small talk in Japanese. I also wanted to know what she was doing at the moment. You’ll see why later.

She (9/2 15:59): 今日は友達とご飯食べに行ってる！　てか車持ってるんでしたっけ？
　　　　　Notice how I have the sets of mails in this post grouped into time periods and she’s the last one to mail during each long break in time. I’m the one who cuts off the conversation by just not replying. It isn’t a necessary method, but being unpredictable has proven to be successful. You can’t make them wait too long, though. And since I didn’t count on this girl writing back in the first place, I didn’t mind going for all or nothing Note that she hopes I have a car, or she wouldn’t have asked the question.

Me (9/2 18:16): 車持ってるけどあまり使ってない。ただ友達とご飯してるの？俺またしょうこと遊びたい！いつ行けるの？
　 　　　　I made her wait, but not all that long (2 hours). I address the car issue immediately, as no matter what happens, I will not be picking her up in a car as I don’t have one. But, I want to be grouped with the guys who do, so I fib to maintain that value to her. I make no promise about the car, but in her head, she hopes that someday she will be riding in my car. It’s her fantasy, not mine. And my fib was for the purpose of not destroying that fantasy. There actually is a car at work, but it’s not mine. If you lie, base it on something, so that you can back it up if you ever have to. I then pull a double question, one of which she’ll likely answer. I was interested if she was with her friend because I wanted to schedule her right then and there, but I can’t say it or I’d be needy. I also tell her I want to see her badly, and ask when she’s free. The interest and date invite show her I’m interested; and part of my weed-out process - if she’s going to flake, it might as well be sooner than later. I go all-or-nothing often, because my phone is full of girls and I really don’t care that much about any of them as there will be new, hotter ones each time I go out to look for them. No reason to play girls’ games anymore.

She (9/2 18:19): じゃあ今度心斎橋連れってって
　　　　　She indicates she’ll see me.

Me (9/2 18:20): いいよ！☆　土曜わ？
　　　　　No nonsense response and a quick discussion of when. I was actually busy Saturday, but if I would have gotten her I would have canceled the other plans at the last minute, because that’s totally appropriate when dating in Japan.

She (9/2 18:21): いいでっ！前会った４人で行こ？
　　　　　This comment suggesting a Level 2 date just DRASTICALLY reduced the chances we’ll ever meet.

Me (9/2 18:28): Ok! (^_^) でも最初の時二人だけのデートしよう？
　　　　　I agree with the “ok,” making her feel she has control. However, I completely ignore my “ok” and counter with another all or nothing power word: “date.”

She (9/2 18:31): 慣れるまでゎ４人がいいかも
　　　　　The beginnings of what is over 90% likely to lead to a “refusal to date alone” - something most guys can’t understand. To get the meaning, think of the word “refuse” as a definite, solid no. At this first sign of refusal, I am totally loose, as I feel I no longer have her where I want her and anything I try will go down hill from here. I would have given up, but it only takes a minute to shoot off a mail, so why not? I made her wait for the time being, though.

Me (9/2 23:54): 二人で遊びたくないのは、信用してないってこと？
　　　　　Trust. Prejudice. These are just a few words that make Japanese people change their attitude and console their conversation partner and save face for everyone involved. Use these “power words” carefully.

She (9/2 23:56): そーゆうンちゃうけど　４人とかの方が楽しいし。。　
　　　　　Another refusal. My patience wore thin and I didn’t care anymore at all, so I let the BS fly:

Me (9/3 00:02): 俺しょうこと喋ってすごい楽しかったよ。四人遊びたいけどそれはしょうこのことを知ってから。最初の時、四人で遊ぶことしたらな、今までその子といつも最後になるからイヤ～ (-_-)しょうこに一回だけ会いたくないから (;_;)
　 　　　　Told her I liked her company. Told her I don’t like to meet girls just once. I grouped her with all girls who refuse a Level 1 date the first time, but strive for a 4-person Level 2 date and don’t want to meet up again. Japanese are the world’s biggest stereotypers, but they hate being stereotyped themselves.

She (9/3 00:03): そんなん　　大丈夫って　　そーゆう子ばっかじゃないし
　　　　　This is a lie; she is that kind of girl and they all fit the stereotype even if they don’t know it. If she’s too scared or nervous for a Level 1, one on one date the first time and would rather never see you again than to meet me alone, chances are high they will never go on a Level 1.

Me (9/3 0:34): そういう子って？
　　　　　This is a stupid line I learned from girls. Give them a taste of their medicine, even though she hasn’t used that medicine yet, I know she does, because she’s a Japanese girl, and the type I get are often the same. Everything a lot of these girls do is subconscious inbred behavior learned from elementary school age.

She (9/3 00:37): さっきゆてたようなん
She gives me the medicine right back, proving my assumption that she’s no different.

Me (9/3 00:54): だから四人で会ったら今度普通に二人で遊ぶってこと？　(^_^)
　　　　　I was just curious if she’d say yes or not. My friend might actually have wanted to go with all 4 of us on a Level 2, so I was just trying to get a promise out of her. If I get that, either I get my Level 1 date after, or else laugh because I predicted she’d break her promise after we meet for a Level 2.

She (9/3 16:54): 昨日寝てた　　だから４人で遊ぼ？
　　　　　She sleeps so there’s an unintentional time break here. She still persists though, so I ignore.

Me (9/4 13:07): うん！また今度ね！(^o^)/
　　　　　A one-day gap and one line. This is hostess or busy, popular girl style mail. It often means “Sure, whatever you say.” This girl is not a hostess, so mailing like this puts me in a position of power. I just fed her more J-girl medicine. Not caring gives you the most power. That’s some important advice right there. I learned that from a 45 year old ex-player. Reading the content of what I said, you can see that it’s now like she’s the one asking me out and I’m rejecting her! See how it’s turned around? Who’s perusing who? I should have laid off and done this a mail or two earlier, actually. I actually messed it up, if I were going that route, but, she didn’t notice—and I didn’t care.

She (9/4 22:52): 今度ってえ？
　　　　　Me not answering this question shows almost as much as me telling her “kondo.” “Kondo” means absolutely nothing. It replaces no sometimes, but means “next time” sometimes. Instead of asking me what I meant by using “kondo,” she has to be hard-headed and give me J-girl medicine and ask a question without actually asking a question. It’s built into her to make people ask her more questions. No Japanese guy friend will be this vague with you, unless if he’s looking for power. Girls look for power subconsciously, and are satisfied when you pursue answers from them. However, they subconsciously respect you less for doing it. So, I beat her by not replying when she was awaiting a reply. I didn’t care, so that gave me the fuel to resist the urge to contact her. She also may have felt she drove me away. 24 hours later she mails again.

She (9/5 23:18): やっぱ遊びに行くン　　２人でいーよ！
　　　　　Really? Is this a trick? I thought so at first. I was going to mail something saying, “maybe we can meet 4 people after all,” and make her happy. After she’s happy I would tell her, “you know, you’re right, 2 people is best.” That way, it would be more of her suggestion and not mine, and she’d be more obligated to say yes. But instead, I choose the route of silence for a day, which is never a bad choice, and often what you should do when unsure.

Me (9/6 19:13): うん、いいよ！　(^_^) いつ空いてるの？日曜？
　　　　　Again, a no BS response and a quick discussion of when.

She (9/6 22:11): 日曜って今週？
　　　　　Another unconscious stupid question on her part as the sixth was a Thursday. Her punishment for being J-girl was another day of waiting for my mail.

Me (9/7 22:41): 返事遅くてすいません！　(-_-) 日曜ね、うん！今週末でいいよ！月曜も休みになった！いつがいい？門限何時？２２時ぐらい？
　 　　　　”I’m sorry for mailing late,” in English, might be translated as “hi.” I wanted to use the meaningless greeting here. Then, I informed her without being a dick that in any language, on a Thursday, “Let’s meet Sun” means “this Sun.” She was probably thinking I meant “any given Sunday.” I fact, maybe I messed up the Jap here. I’ll have to ask a friend about that. In either case, though, it’s always best to be specific with Japanese people. Although their language doesn’t use subjects much, they really get confused by this, even when talking to each other (Ex: Did you eat yet?....what, a meal?....yeah, a meal….me?....yeah, you…yeah, why?....because I’m hungry…..sorry, I already ate).

I gave her two days here because I want to meet her fast as I don’t know how long she’s going stick to wanting to meet for a Level 1. I also wanted to find out what time she has to go home by, and I suggested later that I thought she was willing to stay out, kind of like discounting in a store. For example, if I would have asked her “You gotta be home by what, 8?” then she’d probably have to be home by 7. Therefore, I said 10 expecting her to say 9 .

Finally, I just assumed that by her saying “Sunday?” the day before, that she meant she could see me that weekend. Assuming answers, being decisive, and taking control are all musts for efficiently getting girls.

She (9/7 22:57): 用事あるから５時くらい
　　　　　So, she’s busy Sunday nights with something (she told me what it was but I didn’t include it here). She also successfully ignored my curfew question. Girls often will only answer one of a few questions.

Me (9/7 22:59): 早いな！だから日曜お昼から遊んだらいいの？
　　　　　Wanted to make sure I have ample time to nail her. If I were to meet her at twelve and she had to leave by five I could probably pull it off.

She (9/7 22:59): うん　　日曜って１６やんな？
Don’t ask. But I rolled with it.

Me (9/7 23:02): 今週まだわからないから来週のほうがいいかも！(you)いつがいいの？
　　　　　I semi-ruled out this Sunday by saying I don’t know yet. That way, I could change it later, if I have to. But she will likely view me as a guy having other things to do that wait for her. We both agree on the 16th. I didn’t mention “16th," though, just in case if later for some reason I have to pretend to have misunderstood. I planted an evil seed to lie or flake. I learned that from J-girls.

She (9/7 23:04) うん！　今週は無理。　１６ね！ (^_^)/
　　　　　Agreed. Now to just mail a few times and wait for the 16th!

So that's one way to get a fussy girl. Some parts might have been risky if I actually cared. For the record, most girls this fussy or begging for Level 2s don't end up agreeing to Level 1s. This one did. If you do it enough you create your own luck, right? She didn't all out refuse, though, so that's what helped me.

Cute Girls or Ugly Girls: Who Are Easier?

This was an exchange taken from Japan Lair, a Japan pickup forum. I thought it would be valuable to re-post it here


SC says:
Seems to me that alot of people have lost sight of that concept considering how easy some of the girls out there are. The easy ones tending to be the less attractive of the bunch, usually. Being on base here in Atsugi though, i see TONS of 8's, 9's, and yes even a fair amount of 10's, walking around on base with their AMERICAN BF's/Husbands. So, from what i have actually seen with my own eyes, it isnt impossible to net these girls, and not even rare, just maybe uncommon. It takes more effort to get them than it does the more average looking girls that a lot of guys (JLair included) settle for just cause it's easier. If you want more quality, you gotta put in the work, meaning don't expect to meet 2-3 times and get it on, and don't expect to be able to approach in ANY setting without being able to be on top of your game moreso than you would for the average pickup. Just like in the States!

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Shiva says:
huh? i hope u mean that like "dont expect to be able to wait for the 2nd or 3rd date before you f them".

Hot girls know the score. The hotter the girl, the more experience with guys shes had. Hot girls know guys, and they know what guys want. If a HB8 or above turns up for a day 2 with you, the chances are shes up for sex, and unless you act like a total dickhead and f it up, shes down to get f-ed.

The reason you read about guys like Twist laying girls on like the 4th and 5th date, and getting massive LMR (last-minute resistance to sex) after the girl has come back to his bedroom, isnt because they dont have tight enough game, its because they are targeting, or at leats settling for, girls who dont have much experience with men(i.e. non-hot girls).

Any girl that comes back to your apartment and doesnt put out, is either an S tease, or an inexperienced girl who doesnt understand what it means to socialise with men, and doesnt understand what men want from her.

Hot girls are not like this. They have f-ed, dated, or at the very least interacted with and busted the balls of HUNDREDS, if not THOUSANDS of guys. They know what you want.

The hotter the girl, the harder the sarge. and, the hotter the girl the harder it is to get a day 2. BUT, if that smoking hot girl turns up for a day 2, you're getting laaaaaaaayyyd!

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Nubreed says:
OMG this is the best post EVER! Spot-on assessment. Quoted from The Bible itself! Shiva, can I put this raw awesomeness on my blog?

Shiva's right. Less attractive girls are easier to date, but you can't trust them to not LMR. Hot girls (read: girls nampaed daily) will either ignore you or nail you. Army base girls would be 3-6s on this hot/popularity scale. Gaijin don't get hot girls. Saw it just 50 times in 5 years.

Virtually every time I met a hot girl on a Level 1 date I banged her. About 90% vs 60% or so for 4s-6s. If I did a Level 3 with a hot girl and her friends I never saw her again. If I didn't try to bang I never saw her again. Hell, even if I banged her brains out I never saw her again! Hahaha.

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K-close (Kiss-Close) Advice

This article will likely piss you off. If you even try to read past the bold text, you're likely just not going to get it. This is designed to piss you off and make you stop worrying about kissing girls when the real goal is banging a few and eventually making the best ones your GF. I'm tired of seeing guys shoot themselves in the foot with this kissy-face crap. Stop the damn kissing already! Are you still going to read on? You'll hate me afterwards, I'm sure. If that's okay with you, go ahead. It's okay with me. At least I'll know that you'll stop being a baby and whining about how to kiss, how not to kiss, when to kiss, blah blah blah

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K-close, in the pickup (PU) community--the mainly online community of men who are not naturally good picking up women who come together to discuss how to pickup hot women--has come to replace the word "kissing." Stupid, I know, and just for the record, I've never "k-closed" a girl. But I've kissed hundreds!

A lot of guys ask advice about how to kiss a girl and why after they kiss a girl she ends up "flaking"--the PU community term for ditching you--and never talking to you again. This is the problem. Are you serious? you may be asking, and I know, it's pretty straightforward why guys are failing to get kisses and why, if they do get kisses, they are failing to get the girls in the sack.

1. She Wouldn't Kiss Me

Are we going to overanalyze this and say, "she's playing hard to get..." or any of that BS? No, we're not. She didn't kiss you because she doesn't like you! Is that not the answer over half of the time? Duh. The other "duh" moments are when you try to kiss her when there are people around, when it's too soon for her, or when it's the first date and she doesn't want to kiss on the first date, which may mean she just doesn't like you yet. Here's a un-over analysis for all situations:

If you go for a kiss, whether you succeed or fail in the kiss, overall, YOU FAIL!

There, problem solved. Remember that and move on to the next question....

No, you want an explanation even though you have an answer? Okay: Succeeding in a kiss isn't going to make her like you more. At most, all it's going to show you is that she likes you enough to kiss you. Well, what does that tell you, that she'll have sex with you? No! It doesn't mean she'll have sex with you nor does it mean she'll even see you again. A kiss means nothing!

And what if you fail in getting the kiss. Does that mean she hates you? Does it mean that she doesn't like you? Does it mean she won't see you again? No, no, and no! The information a failed kiss attempt gives you is just as useless as a successful kiss attempt. However, let's see how a non kiss attempt rules all:

2. She Kissed Me But Won't See Me Again

Do you really need to read this far? You already know that a kiss means nothing. You just finished reading that. So, you should have inferred that if she kisses you, she thinks you like her and she thinks you want to kiss and probably have sex with her. What if she did kiss you but just did it to be polite? Uhhh...hadn't thought of that one, have you? So, in this case, the kiss is a guarantee that she won't see you again! If she sees you again after kissing you she might as well show up with a banner across her chest stating "Little Miss Slut I Kissed You Last Time and Will Suck You Off This Time."

The kiss is a guarantee that she won't see you again!

So c'mon, guys. Go kiss your mother if you want to kiss someone. Save the kisses for when you get the girl in the sack, then you can start making out. If you kiss before then, only the ones who like you will come back. If you do it my way, you'll nail the ones who like you as well as half of the ones who don't like you because the kiss will be enough to turn them on.

Some 2007 quotes which, if you opened this article, you obviously need to read:

"I want to emphasize that not getting a kiss doesn't mean you can't get sex. If you're on the roof, by the river, in your room, anywhere, if she's not down to kiss maybe you could try to skip that step. Not kissing is obviously a bad sign, but this is an obstacle that can sometimes be overcome by ignoring it."

"Kiss: it doesn't mean much. I wouldn't even do it unless if it were right at the pickup (for no other reason than to see if they'll let me). In fact, over the past few years I don't think I've ever kissed a girl on a date before getting her to the sex location. The way I see it: why risk scaring her away with no foreseeable benefit? I agree with (name omitted) and don't think of a kiss as a down payment on her seeing you again."

"But is the kiss your goal, or is sex your goal? You don't have to kiss in public before you go to your house or to the love hotel. You can skip that step sometimes. Why follow two steps when you only need one? I know a lot of guys would probably give reasons why this wouldn't work, but I kiss very few girls before we arrive in the sex location. "

"Umm, why do you have to kiss her anyway? What's the use? It's not necessarily going to make her horny enough to come to your house and bang you, right? No, if she's not interested--like she wasn't--it'll have the opposite effect: she won't want to go to your house because she'll feel like a slut going knowing that it's likely that more kissing will happen."

"Anyway, I just wanted to say that I've (expletive)ed several girls who would not let me kiss them. Kissing is for BFs, but (expletive)ing is okay because it's fun and feels good. Go figure. But don't let not getting a "K-close" stop you from having sex!"

More on Kissing (Part II)

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Pissed off yet? Good, go whine about it. Since you're not kissing girls and I've kissed many, I must just be lucky or extremely good-looking, right? If you believe that you'll never succeed at anything. For others, if you've read this far I hope you at least learned something. Do you now understand that kissing is a waste of time until you're in your room? If not, ignore everything I said and go around shooting yourself in the foot like you've been doing all along.

Two-Stage Pickup - Powerful Sarging Technique

Having an "In"

I mentioned before that having an "in" will usually get a girl to open regardless of the situation. For example, saying any of the following true statements to a girl in a club or on the street will easily open the set: "I know your brother Kazu," "You live by Takagawa Station," or "I saw you at Cranx Bar last week!" Or, you can produce a false in with the same effect. For example, once in a while, since I often do my streethunting in the same area, I can actually guess where the girls live - sometimes from the direction they are walking after/before the last train. All of these girls will at least open, even if they aren't interested in you. You know something about them that you couldn’t possibly know unless if you were already “in.” (Example: "Hey, you live in A-city!" She: "What? How do you know?" Me: "I've seen you at the station because I go there sometimes" (lie, I just know because of what train station she is walking from, but they don't I'm observant enough to know that).

These situations are the same as already knowing the girl. Of course they will open. They're not shy because, well, they know you! (but not girls with whom you’ve previously failed). If you don't have their number and want it, it's the perfect way to sarge. That’s a main reason guys who know everybody seem to get a lot of girlie action.

Two-Stage Pickup

The way I get a lot of my successful pickups, whether in clubs, on the street, anywhere, is to do what I call a Two-Stage Pickup. This is very powerful, built on the same power of having an "in" when sarging. And it can be doubly powerful considering the state it will put you in after you know you have the in. You can create the "in" of "Hey, I know you!," without having to guess. So, if you don’t actually have an in, and you don’t have to guess, what do you do?

It's very simple: you see a girl, say something for a few seconds, then if it isn't going anywhere without pulling out your full PUA skillset, you leave, then you nonchalantly, accidentally run into her again. Therefore, you have an in. You’re not nampaing (hunting), you’ve become the guy she saw before. She has a reason to be talking to you. She already knows you're not needy, because you already left her once. Incredibly powerful if your positioning is correct. It's a gamble though, as the girl could leave. Lameness level? Rate it how you want, but it's not lame if when you leave, you're actually going to do something.

Example

You walk by a cute girl or two drinking a lemon tea by the garbage cans as you're on your way into 7-11
You: あれ？向こうの公園にベンチあるよ。(trans: you know, there’re benches to sit on over there)
She: (giggling)
You: 暑いな～俺も何か買おう！ (Or, if you think she's interested in you, you'd say 何か買って来る to give her an indirect sign that you coming back to talk to her [trans: man, it’s hot, I’m going to get something to drink!)
(If she only giggles, you have to say something to make her talk. For example, それおいしいの？ [trans: is that good?]. If she hasn’t spoken, you haven’t actually had a conversation)
You then go buy a drink in 7-11, buy what you were planning to get, and while you’re doing it check to see if either her friend or BF is in there, in this case, there's no one, so you return to the girl directly

You: 俺、これ買った…. to continue talking on the same thread as you were when you left her. Or you could just start something else. Either way, you’re now standing alone talking to a hot girl who is already more comfortable than she was the moment she first saw you. You’re already in, no matter what, and if you aren’t, at least you feel like you are, making you automatically “in” just by the frame you assume. You have not only fooled her, but also yourself. Very powerful.

Traits I Look for in Girls

Here are the different characteristics of girls I like and the different stages they're capable of reaching if they have these traits.

Hunting

I only look for physical characteristics sexually appealing to when hunting. If see about 3 of the following she'll have grabbed my attention (in approximate order):

1. Bright colors
2. Skin showing
3. Dyed hair
4. Thin
5. Makeup

Deciding to Approach

Before going to pickup a girl I'd have to make sure she had these two:

6. Cute
7. Young

Given Traits for Keen Girls

While talking, if I noticed she had bad teeth, was too young or old, or was smelly or dirty I'd be turned off. In the initial interaction I'll need to be able to converse with her some, but even if not, as long as there are no turn offs, I'm ready for sex. From there it's her disqualifying me. But if she likes me, she is usually:

8. Keen
9. Nice
10. Talkative
11. Intelligence

After Date & Sex (Sex Friend)

From there we might date and have sex. If she fits most of the 1-7 Hunting requirements, and since the Keen elements 8-11 are usually given, I'd keep her around a while if at least one these are met:

12. Fun to be with,
13. Good body, or
14. Good sex

Girlfriend

If she fits nearly all of 1-7, is very strong in 8-11, and has both 12 & 13 (Fun and Good body), then I'd be her boyfriend.

Very Long Term/Marriage

I'm not married yet but I think when that point comes I'll need to see a lot of the following:

* Have future financial goals
* Clean - as in housekeeping
* Not jealous
* Cheap - as in not wasting money
* Similar interests - traveling, outdoors, fun restaurants, drinking, etc

Different Mindsets Regarding Sex. Determined by Looks, Actions, and Kissing

Here is some info about how what you observe in a Japanese girl can help you have sex with her. To me, being able to determine an outcome, or know how to proceed towards sex just by observing a girl's looks, actions, speaking style, etc., is the best skill you can have.

I'm still looking for the big breakthrough, but even now how have so many little things that I can observe that help me know what step to take next. In the raw form it would be something like, "All girls who have boots are easy...proceed quickly," "Girls who meet you at 11 pm want sex...take her to your house," or "All girls who are in college want BFs only and sex scares them...proceed with caution."

Before we get to the types let's look at a few other things.

Kissing (K-Close)

Have you ever gone for a kiss and the girl shies away? How about she shied away one time, but not the next, then she shied away again? Confusing, right? Wouldn't it be nice to know what she's thinking? You can! Just Paypal me $9.99 and you download....just kidding, it's free!

The type of girl she is--her type of thinking, rather--will determine if she kisses you passionately and professionally, just kisses you, lets you kiss her and doesn't kiss back, shies away, or runs away! Here are some possible explanations:

• Kisses back passionately - she'll likely be up for sex (and maybe nothing more)
• Shies away - she might want to date you but not like how fast things are progressing
• Runs away - she thought you were just friends and is scared
• Kisses you back normally - you don't know yet and need more info
• Lets you kiss, but doesn't pucker up - she doesn't know yet and needs more info
  

Personally, I'd say that if I tried to kiss a large percentage of my dates on the street or in the restaurant they wouldn't let me. That doesn't mean we wouldn't have sex though, it would just mean that it's too soon to kiss, or else it's out of place.

Seducing Girls

I have to add this section to do my part to help the world get along with each other and help couples keep happy relationships.

Guys, who have become good at getting women in bed but don't know how to treat them afterwards, are often labeled seducers, jerks, playboys, etc. If you nail a chick and never see them again, you're a jerk, hands down. Maybe she doesn't want to see you again, or maybe she doesn't answer your calls again. Heck, you don't even have to arrange to see her again. HOWEVER, if she gave you sex AND she tries to see you again, you must. Do it, or to me, you're a jerk; and I will understand if girls say you seduced them.

Hold on, though, because some girls are seducers too. On countless occasions I've had sex with girls who, after sex, had never contacted me again. At first I was puzzled and tried to call them. Then I wisened up and didn't even get their phone number, so I just send them a text the next day saying I had fun with them. Heck, they'll even block your text sometimes! But, I learned. Guys like us have to learn and respect their feelings: they want sex, so we give it to them. When they get it, they're gone. The symbiosis cycle completed after one date. Do NOT get mad at these girls. They are sluts, yes, but we like sluts, right? They give us what we want, so we give them what they want and leave them alone when we're done with them.

Beware, though, because some of these seducing women are jerks too. They actually lie to themselves to make themselves not feel so slutty! I've had girls tell me something like, "You tricked me, I didn't know we were going to have sex!" and I'd be like like, "Huh? We were making out and you committed as much to it as I did! Plus, you're the one who ignored me after! I thought it was a start to a relationship!"

In short, girls like this get the sex they wanted which will satisfy them for anywhere from a few days to a few months, and they blame you for their need; their slutiness.

I don't get this much anymore though, because I know how to deal with it. I can't go into a lot of details here, but to prevent this from ever happening, maybe 10-15 minutes after sex, tell her, "Wow, I didn't expect to have sex tonight. But, you are so sexy I couldn't control myself. It was great!" You see, that way, you're taking the blame off of her for her. She doesn't have to do it herself. And, you might have even made yourself a new friend or a new sex friend. You see, I told you I'd help keep people in happy relationships!

I think "seducing" a girl to do something she might not want to do is kind of like talking to the little voice inside of her and that voice is what gives up the sex. Afterwards, when she isn't horny that little voice goes away and she thinks for herself again. It's really bad when guys learn this, but don't learn how to treat the girls nicely afterward. It's like becoming a black belt but not learning that you shouldn't go around beating up people with it. Be a nice guy.

4 Different Type of Mindsets Regarding Sex

1. Girls who just want sex once, maybe because you're a foreigner. These girls are the blondest, youngest, hottest, and most likely to be hostesses. (Generally younger and easier.)
   
2. Girls who may or may not want you as a BF. They're deciding. They definitely don't want sex on the first date, though. Doing something extreme, even a kiss before the time is right, might scare them off. (Younger, hard.)
   
3. Girls who don't care, and will give it up if you simply touch their leg and turn them on. (Older, easy)
4. Girls who are just thinking of being friends and don't want sex. They will scare if you even sit by them or hold their hand. This is the type easiest to lose on. (Older, hard.)

Type 1 girls are my favorite looks-wise. They will be the passionate and professional kissers, most of the time. However, some inexperienced ones might want sex but not really know how to kiss so well yet, so they might just let you kiss them and not kiss back. Or, they could be shy, too. These girls might not talk to you after sex. They are the hardest to date, because they like Japanese guys, but once you do get a date with them, they'll give it up easily. You can tell more by how they look and act than by how they kiss. They might be mad at you for seducing them, but not likely. Since they wanted it anyway, it's likely they'll just ignore you afterwards as you've given them pleasure. Maybe meet once more, mail a few times, but mainly, you have to be prepared to kiss her sexy a*s goodbye!

These girls will likely change to become type 3. If they feel guilty for their past slutty actions they might move into type 2 to find a steady BF to make up for their "sins."

Type 2 are characterized by being nice girls. They are basically type 4s, but they actually like you. They are looking for a BF, and trying you out to see if you fit. They will scare if you go for a kiss too soon because they don't want a playboy. If they do kiss you back, it doesn't necessarily mean sex, it just means that she thinks it's a part of your newly progressing relationship. She still knows she can stop and flake at any time. If you seduce girls like this, they might be mad and blame you. They will probably never be a hostess and are likely in college. They're fragile so you have to treat them that way. After sex you have to let them know that you were thinking about it but couldn't help it. You have to say you'll see her again, or else she'll hate you.

Girls in this category will change! They won't stay like this forever. As they get older and more experienced (read seduced) they'll move more towards type 3, in extreme cases maybe type 1. However, if the girl simply doesn't see you as an ideal BF, she'll be type 4 around you and type 2 around other guys.

Type 3 girls are down for whatever. They're for sure not thinking about sex, but if it happens, they don't care. Or, they may just be to carefree (or unintelligent) to go with the flow. These girls are fun and you can make them a GF, have sex with a few times and say goodbye, make them a sex friend or a "regular," etc. They may have previously been another type of girl. They probably won't change unless if they start to feel guilty and become a type 2. They might change based on if they have a BF or not, and be a type 4 towards you.

Type 4 is what I would weed out if I had a way to see it before hand. If anyone has any advice on this let me know! It's a waste of time to date them. I've had type 4s at my house before. Some will get up and move if you try to sit next to them. I had one who wouldn't leave the entranceway of my house! Some are just so shocked that a gaijin is thinking of having sex with them. Some even don't see see gaijin as an appriate sexual partner, so are offended and disgusted that you would try to make a move on her. Some of these might be like this because they have the American ideal of not cheating on their BFs (they think it's the Japanese ideal and think Americans cheat but that's a story for another day). If she won't even sit next to you on date one, date two is usually a WOT.

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So, there you go. I'd say I get these girls around 1/4 of the time each. I have sex with over 75% of the girls I date and most of the losses would be type 4s. I can seduce the type 4s sometimes, and will try if I'm in that position. It's worth a shot, right? Type 1s have always been the hottest. Type 2s can be as hot as type 1s, but not percentage wise. If the girl becomes your GF it's likely she was type 2 (although there are exceptions). Type 3s are nice, but generally not as hot. Let me know if this helps at all!

Skills to be a Top Japan PUA: Top-Ten Countdown

There are a lot of guys living in Japan who need help meeting women, so they consult the mainly online PUA community to get advice from the PU gurus in the US. These gurus have not been to Japan, therefore, when they say, "this works on all girls everywhere," they're not being entirely truthful. If you're reading this it's obvious that you're interested in Japanese women. So, when you search for advice about how to get these women, wouldn't it make sense to place more value on advice from someone who's been successful with Japanese women over several years and place a lesser value on what American PUA instructors advise? Judging by the low success rates of guys in Japan practicing this material, I think it's time to try some new things!

In short, very little of the advice given by these gurus matters one bit. You could do it, or you could not do it, either way, there are completely different factors which make all the difference. I'll go over a few main traits that someone would need to have to get the hottest girls in Japan. I'm not talking about the girls your foreign friends fool themselves into thinking are the hottest girls, I'm talking about the girls the coolest Japanese guys have trouble getting. I call them 8s and above. These traits will also help keep a high success rate when dating 6s and 7s. Most foreign guys dates 4s, 5s, and 6s. Granted, the below the traits work for these girls too, however, you don't have to meet all criteria to be successful! Even with all these traits, the hotter the girl the harder she'll be. That's always a given.

The Traits

1. Japanese. If you don't speak any Japanese you're limited to under 5% of the population. The cutest girls don't speak English (see why here) so that 5% is limited to the more average girls. So, if you want to be a PUA, sarging the hottest Japanese girls, Japanese is the most important factor. It heads our list. Learn it!

2. Common Sense. I'm sticking this in the number 2 slot because it includes so much. When you're picking up a girl can you sense if she's uncomfortable? Are you leaning too close or touching her too much? Are you being pushy about trying to date her now instead of just getting her address and texting her later? Is her friend coming and you have to hurry up and get her number before then so she's not embarrassed giving her number to a gaijin? Did you put two and two together that she has to be somewhere at a certain time so you won't have time to get her home on the date? This deserves a book of its own, but we don't have time for that. For now, you either have common sense or you don't. If you don't, the next trait can actually nearly overcome it.

3. Experience. This is a biggy so it's up at number 3. While someone who has a lot of common sense can come to Japan and pick up right away, someone with experience will learn to pickup through trial and error and from that point on be able to pickup for life. I've always had common sense and did fine when I first got to Japan, but, now, I'd say experience is more important and gets me laid more often than common sense. Why? I've been doing this for years, so I've pretty much seen everything and know what works and when.

4. Quick-thinking. This is kind of hard to explain, but I'm including non-KY here, so it's at number 4 on our countdown. KY, in Japanese, means someone who can't understand the situation at hand and behaves inconsistently with that situation. A quick-thinker rarely does something KY. Also, here we need to include how fast your brain recalls memories or draws conclusions and makes connections to something a girl mentions. If you can make a connection quickly you can converse better. Also, if you're a quick thinker, even if your Japanese isn't great, you might be able to dig through the data base which is your head and find the possible meaning of a word.

5. Non-Clueless. Some guys have no clue how to treat women. Some guys talk about what they did in college or high school. Does anyone really care, especially a hot girl? No. Some guys take girls on dates to clubs and get them taken by other guys. Some guys waste time going out with a girl and all her friends and wonder why she'll never meet him for a Level 1 and have sex with him. This is simple to overcome: think!

6. Plan ahead. What are you going to do with that girl who you're meeting tonight at 7 pm? You know she'll be 30 minutes late, right? Then you go to dinner at 7:45 and you're finally done after nine. You didn't have her drink a beer on the street before going in the restaurant, so she's hasn't even had enough to lie to herself that she's drunk and let herself have sex with you. Plus your house is like 30 minutes away, so you won't be there until 9:45, and her last train is 11. Do you really think you'll succeed? Plan ahead, or don't meet her! Scenario two: meeting a girl at a random station. How are you going to bang her if you haven't even researched where the hotels are?

7. Shy or out-going? You definitely can't be shy. You have to talk to girls. If I didn't talk to girls I'd get about 2 a year. If you're really good-looking maybe a few more, but still. An extreme form of shyness could actually be number one on our list. If you're shy, I've got some material to help to overcome that. Contact me!

8. Settling. I see guys settle for girls because they are easier to get. They tell themselves that they like these girls because they are just as good as the hot ones if the hot one didn't have all the makeup on. Uhh, yeah, but if you're reading this you should know that that's the point. We want the hottest girls! You may have all of these traits and more, but if you settle for your 6-rated GF then you're not going to be picking up that 8 are you?

9. Arrogance. If you're too arrogant, espeically to the girl, she's gone. I see this problem sometimes.

10. Desire. Rounding out our countdown would be actually caring. This can be similar to 8, whereas you can get a hotter girl, but you settle for another one just because she's there. But this is a bit different in that you think a girl is a girl, so you just go for whatever, or, you have that sex friend you're banging so you don't desire a newer, hotter girl, and therefore you don't get one.

Well, that rounds out my little top 10 list. I know it's not a good top 10 list but it sounds cooler that way, huh? I think we need a new category on the very top: 0. Going out and trying! But, that's a given. Here are a few more. They're physical, so the degree plays a part in importance. Obviously if you're 80, 300 pounds, or look like Billy Jim-Bob with three teeth and cow sh*t on your shoes you're not getting anything!

Appearance. You're born with your raw looks, but you can do a lot to change your appearance. For one, dress nicely. I didn't say you have to dress expensively, I said nicely. You can sport a T-shirt and jeans and still be dressed nicely. But no holey jeans, dirty shoes, etc. How's your hair? Is it plain or styled? Styled is best, but don't overdo it or you're looking like a playboy. Do you smell nice? Do you reek of cologne? No one likes that either!

Weight. Foriegners are on average about four inches taller than Japanese, and we know there are a lot of true stereotypes about foreigners being fat. Are you overweight? It for sure isn't going to help you. The portions are smaller in Japan and while it's hard to eat perfectly healthy, everything is pretty much on the healthy side, whereas in the US you can have either very healthy or very unhealthy. Keep the calories down. No extra helpings of rice! And exercise. Sex is good exercise, so you get double the benefits with this one!

Age. What's the ideal age to get the hottest girls? Well, first of all the hottest girls are 18-22, and they usually like guys 5-10 years older. So, since this post...this blog is about the hottest, I'm going to say the ideal age is 25-30, give or take. 40 year old going for an 18 year old? It's not that it can't be done, but it's harder. A 22 year old going for a 22 year old? Can be done, but harder. I think you get the point here. Personally, I can't really say at what age I was in my prime (related post) because experience has overtaken all and to this day I continue improving!

Foreigners' Dick Size

This might seem odd, and if you're not open-minded, you might want to skip it. If you want to know another reason why I'm successful at getting girls, read on. I think I'm the only guy to ever try this. You see, I'm always trying new things. Many don't work. What does work I do over and over again, obviously. So, you're getting the meat: the stuff that's worked. And, what I'm about to tell you about Dick size works! *1

The Stereotypes

Japanese men have the smallest Dicks on the planet. Even Chinese and other Asian countries are larger. People know this, or at least have heard it. You being a foreigner in Japan might like this. Now you really seem like the man, right? It's great, right?? Here I'm going to convince how this hurts you and limits your sex options.

Japanese men know this (mostly true) stereotype. Do you think they're pleased by it? Heck no! They make up several things to offset their small size. They say their Dick is more powerful. They say they have better sexual technique. They say that Japan has more positions. They'll say that they can last longer and make it rise more. They'll say that a big Dick will hurt a girl. And mostly, they say that while foreigners may be big, they're soft.

Now that's a lot working against you right there! The hurting and the idea of a foreigner being a caveman in the sack is what hurts us the most. Let's look at a simple way to combat this.

Solving the Problem

You can argue and say, "Not only do I have good technique and get very hard, but I'm also big!" Great, you just said that you're Mr. Stud. Can any man be that great? Are you? The answers are likely yes, and believe me, I know it's true, but are we going to convince Japanese girls of this? Uh-uh.

So, we give them all of their stereotypes to be true! We just agree with them! Then, they are happy that you agreed with the. They won't want to have sex with you if all that is true, right? Well, after you agree, you simply tell them, "But not me! My Dick is small and hard, like Japanese."

And that's it! You're done! Do you have that much pride that you don't want to say that if it happens to come up? Fine, don't, and enjoy a lower success ratio! I'd even bring it up on my own, eliminating a possible obstacle before it arises.

And, another way to do it is to say that the stereotype is all wrong. Sure, some foreigners are big and soft, like porn stars or something, but most guys are almost the same as Japanese. "It's not going to hurt at all! Gaijin are small too!" There, you only change the cases creating the stereotype to a small percentage of the population.

Do that, and you're in. Girls don't want a vulgar guy in bed who has a big soft unit flapping around. You get what you want by simply flapping your gums!

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*1 I'm limiting myself to the use of Dick with a capital "D" like the man's name here. The reason is that if I swear the software won't let me display certain things on the site. I actually have to edit some older entries too.

GACC: Making Japan Love Foreigners Again

I say we start a club. The idea of it being a club is kind of stupid, but it could also be very fun. Foreigners are obviously not the the most popular choice of boyfriends among Japanese girls. Why? Well, we are different. We scare them. We're stereotyped as being vulgar and not being able to speak Japanese or fit into cultural norms. You can speak for yourself on this one, but I don't fit into the vulgar gaijin stereotype. I've learned to fit in in all but my looks in certain situations, and when I don't, you darn best believe I've tried to! However, stereotypes are formed because they're usually true, right? Why not try to change these?

The club is the Gaijin Are Cool Club. GACC, baby! We tell all the people we know how gaijin are so cool and that all girls want to date gaijin. To keep people from wondering why gaijin are always with 日本じ～んって感じ　(ugly, old style Japanese, etc.) girls, we tell them that it's because while cute girls were getting dates in high school, the average and ugly girls stayed home studying English, and they are the only ones capable of getting the cool gaijin. The hot girls want gaijin but don't speak English so can't get them! (Not entirely true, but very plausable, and it's very easy to convince someone of this.)

We must communicate this to all girls we're interested in:
Hot girls are incapable of getting gaijin who don't speak Japanese.
When you see these couples, they're speaking English, right? Only
the English-speaking girls can get the handsome tourists too, due to
good English. Of course my friends and I only have cute girls because
we can speak some Japanese.

What not to say:
Most gaijin are stupid and work at crappy English teaching jobs. They
are too lazy to study Japanese.

What to say:
Most hot girls are stupid and can't speak English. They can't get the
cool foreigners working at cool places like GABA, GEOS, NOVA, and other
English schools. Too bad for them!

Never say the reason that a gaijin isn't with a girl is because he can't speak Japanese; say it's because the girl doesn't speak English. Keep the gaijin on the pedestal at all times. Keep the pretty girls off the pedestal.

And, if you are the gaijin talking to the pretty girl, keep it in the third person, keeping both you and her out of the conversation. She will not forget you're a foreigner, and she would like to think she's a pretty girl. You calling pretty girls stupid will make her feel lucky to be able to be with a cool gaijin like you. You might want to mention that you personally don't go for ugly girls. If she knows that she'll stay with you because she wants to be in the pretty girl group.

Sounds stupid but it worrrrks! It's so easy to brainwash them--they're Japanese! Social proof of being a foreigner should be something that's goooood. If everyone heard this story all gaijin would be getting double the action! Let's GACC!

2009 Update

In 2008 I finally left Japan. I feel I kind of conquered all anyone has ever conquered as far as girls are concerned. I got the pics to remember the good times, and I have the knowledge and experience to do it again anytime I want to. I'd say I can do this for the next 10 years (related post: Can We Get 20 y.o. Girls at Age 35-40?).

What didn't I accomplish that I wanted to? Well, I did want to spend a little money and go to the hostess bars and brothels and see if paying for women is as much fun as hunting, dating, and seducing. I wanted to be able to get two tan blond gyaru per month, and I wasn't able to do that. There aren't that many tan blond gyaru around to begin with, and they rarely talk to a foreigner if approached, so I don't see this as a huge failure, rather, I see it as a challenge I'd like to someday overcome, even if for a short time.

Combining topics from the last paragraph, you'd see how money to afford hostess bars where the hottest girls sometimes are would allow me to meet several of these girls per month. That's a bonus money would give me. Another bonus is that I wouldn't have to work as much, meaning I would have more time to go out and maybe more time to meet girls. During the end of my time in Japan I would rarely hunt, I'd just see girls during a commute somewhere and chat them up. Worked just as well, and even more efficient than devoting time to nampa. More time would mean I could again dedicate time specifically to hunting as well.

That isn't the main reason I moved home, I came to pursue my own financial goals, but the above is a byproduct of success, and a motivator when I regret being in the US when I could be in Japan dating hot girls. Travel and free time are actually the biggest motivators. I want to go to several countries, rent cottages in the woods, and relax with a good buddy or lady friend. Fancy cars? Big house? Big TV? Dude, I don't care about any of that stuff. A small apartment is fine for me wherever I live. Car? Not a huge deal at all. This means that I don't need to reach such a high point to mean I've fulfilled my goals. I'll still aim high, but can stop at the trees; not the stars.

I just thought I'd update some of you who don't know that I left Japan. I love Japan. I miss Japan. I mostly miss the girls and the cool friends I've made there. I still enjoy talking about girls and advising anyone who has any questions. All I've learned in my years in Japan really shouldn't go to waste. I'm sorry I only have a small blog, but what I've posted here, I feel is significant.

See you on a vacation someday, somewhere soon!

-NB

Wait 6-8 Months Before Trusting a Girl

I was talking to friend the other day, and talking about the same thing today with this American chick who got a new BF and (insert boring story here). I thought about all my past relationships with Japanese girls. When I first went to Japan I pretty much trusted anyone who seemed sincere. Then I started to realize that Japanese girls will bang you once, twice, or date you up to 3-4 months then just ditch you. This happened to me once and I was really upset, so from there I've carried a heart of stone so that no one can hurt me. I'm so bad now that when my GF of two years nearly broke up with me for something I did I simply told her, "Okay, good luck."

I've had a lot of girlfriends. Yes, they overlapped, but they were serious, and the start of the short ones was no different from the start of the long ones. I didn't go back to check exact dates, but up to around 4 months I've had girls just disappear, some with no goodbye mail or anything. Some were virgins, some were older, some were hot, some were average. One thing holds true: the older, the more educated, the more "non-ADD" (as my friend would say) a girl is, the more likely she is to send you an explaination/goodbye mail. The younger, the more A-class a girl is, the less likely you are to get an explanation. The closer you are--you've met the parents, for example--the more likely you are to get a mail even if she's totally ADD hot blond hostess A-class 19 year old.

And then there are those ten or so relationships I had that lasted 6 months or more. Would you believe I still talk to all of them today? And, the eventual breakup was something I could have prevented, had I not wanted to breakup, which I did. I could have probably married most of these girls, had I not been evil and replace them with better ones.

So, I guess this is a message to guys who fall in love with a Japanese girl: don't trust her until you've been with her at least 6 months. If you don't change anything in that time, she'll probably stay with you at least a year. If a girl goes through some change--as they often do--it's likely you'll see one of those changes within 6 months and if she stays with you that long she'll stay with you longer. If it hasn't been 6 months, don't give her your heart!

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That's about all I have to say here, so since you're paying for this (you are paying me, right?), I'll tell a little story. This story doesn't include any girls who just stopped mailing me after a couple months, but Lord knows I have handfuls of those stories to tell too.

It was October and I picked up my average of a few girls a week or so, something like that. Here are the girls in the story:

• a) 19 year old tan blond gyaru virgin. Very hot. Met her at the convenience store.
• b) 23 year old extremely tiny, bitchy, smart, and a lot of fun. Met her in 100 shop.
• c) 28 year old hostess. Met her at hostess bar.

It just so happened that I set up the first dates with all three of these girls in a 2 day period. So, I met a) for drinks, banged her, sent her home then headed over to c)'s house when she finished work. The next day I dated b) and banged her too. I don't remember the order but it was something like that.

• a) She stayed with me dating me about once a week. She said she wouldn't have sex with someone she didn't like so we were together a year after that and now we're still in contact
• b) She had a BF when I nailed her and she broke up with him the next day. She was looking to get rid of him but had no alternatives. We had loads of fun together. I really liked this girl. But, she just decided to send me a mail 4 months later saying she wanted to get back with the old BF. That lasted a while, then she dumped him, then she met and banged me every three months or so, now she has a new BF.
• c) She realized our relationship of 3 months was going no where since we only met at 2 am and did pretty much nothing but video games, sex, and movies. You can't do much at 2 am but that was her excuse. She'll always reply if I mail. She has some customer BFs now. She says she'll see me if I have time. Maybe I'll see her next time I'm in Japan.

So, these girls are not the "disappear" type. They mailed even after we "broke up." The time period was the same, and two ended within four months, one stayed a year. When I left Japan I had four GFs. Three I had just met in the couple months before I left. Results: one stopped mailing a few weeks after I came to the US, one who I was really serious with answered my calls for two more months then started ignoring me, one broke up in person as I returned to Japan, one stayed with me.

In short, you can't really tell, so wait your 6 months then you'll know for sure!

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UPDATE: I wrote the following to a friend who'd recently got a girlfriend, and the topic is so similar that I thought I'd post it here:

There's nothing wrong with having a single GF and not cheating on her. That's what most guys do. One of the things PUAs in Japan have in common though, is that we (collectively) don't have GFs because we shag many girls. You always told me that you don't want a GF though; whereas most guys say they do. You changed, which is okay. Some guys change in the opposite direction when they find the PU community. This is okay too. I've usually had a GF plus other girls. But one GF kept me from cheating for a time. I even told all other girls I had a GF, so when that one girl dumped me I had no one. That'll never happen to me again though.

And that's why I'm writing this. I don't have too much of an opinion about morals of banging several girls or cheating on someone (because I myself don't feel it's bad). Sure, I might call guys with a GF gay, but that means nothing as most guys are one-girl guys. But, I just don't want anything to happen to you--or any guy on here--that makes you feel sad, hurt, or that you've wasted your time. I won't waste a girl's time either: if I date her a year and don't want to marry her I'll let her know that. If I don't want a LTR I'll tell her early-on. I hate seeing people do shit that hurts others. Sooo, I just want to say that you shouldn't dedicate yourself 100% to her just yet. So, maybe you don't want to cheat, which is fine, but don't send an email to all your regulars saying, "I got a GF." That'd be like burning your bridges. I know not all girls are like my ex-GF who dumped me, but I know that I've had it happen a good 10 times, even after 1-2 months. Your girl is probably more mature about suddenly flaking and is probably serious enough to only get into a relationship that she wants to be in. She likes you because you're a great guy and she's had time to see and evaluate that; she's not just with you for a quick fling.

Anyway, I'm happy for you and if you're happy I'm even happier. Most of what I was trying to say is in my Wait 6 Months Post, which I know you read, which basically says that although you may have dragged and dropped your copy of The Game into the Recycle Bin, you shouldn't empty the bin just yet.