For years I studied how to get the world's hottest girls. I wanted to get a new smoking one twice a month (in addition to other girls). My search for a mentor ended upon realizing that the authority on these tan blond goddesses (often called gyaru, examples: pic 1, pic 2, pic 3) was yours truly. I was in Japan, and while regular girls for any white guy are fairly simple, the hottest ones, like in the photos above and below, are nearly impossible for a white foreigner to get. But I studied, learned the language, assimilated, and succeeded.

While studying these sexy, hard-to-get girls, I mastered the thoughts of girls in general, regardless of country or background. Since the tan blond gyarus are so rare, I often dated non-tan blond gyaru Japanese girls, Australians, Brazilians, Americans, and ultimately, girls from over 20 different countries. I conquered all far as girls are concerned. I met all of my goals except for being able to consistently get two tan blond gyarus per month. So since I felt I wasn't able to improve further I left and came back to the states to pursue my financial goals. The next step would have been to turn around and teach others what took me nearly a decade to learn. I didn't do that--no money in it--but I do offer this free site which I enjoy writing.

This site is dedicated to teaching the skills necessary for an average guy to pickup the hottest girls around. Some of it's Japan related, some of it works anywhere. Some topics are quite advanced. All topics, methods, statistics, and advice posted here are based on the true Japan nampa experiences of NuBreed. Pickup material such as this nonexistent other than the occasional forum or blog.

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Why Do Girls Only Date Guys Once? - Question Answered!

Why do so many cute girls go on one-time dates and never talk to the guys again?  Not all cute girls are like this, but since we can't always be lucky to find too many of these, we need to learn about why popular girls act the way they do.   In this article I attempt to explain why the girl who you had a fantastic date with yesterday will never talk to you again.  -NB

I truly believe that the popularity (i.e. sexual attractiveness) of a girl is the single-most determinant of her actions in relationships with men. Living in both large and small cities in two largely different countries has really opened my eyes to things in both places more than I would have ever noticed had I only lived in one. I never spoke English proper-ly until learning grammar rules of Japanese, for example. Regarding the girls, instead of determining why she's not going on second date, I think we should first examine why she's even going out with him in the first place.

Before that, however, we must note that if a girl is cute she almost assuredly has a placeholder BF.  I say placeholder because more times than not the girl is not totally happy with the placeholder, and although she treats him like a BF, the placeholder is subject to being cast out at the appearance of an upgrade.  Girls with placeholder BFs will subconsciously keep orbiters around to entertain them and maintain that sense of self-worth when their placeholders are away. Of course orbiters want sex and/or a relationship, but the girl will limit what the orbiter gets because she needs him as backup to the current placeholder. And since guys are generally schmucks and okay with this arrangement, the girls never change, are always put on a pedestal, and will forever have guys to take them out and entertain them. These girls will, however, usually become better people when they feel their looks have started to fade. I think that when many feel it coming, they jump into marriage with whatever placeholder they happen to be dating at the time. 

(Note the use of the term "boyfriend" should be reduced in our vocabularies and replaced by "placeholder."  If a girl has a true BF, she will not be talking to another suitor in the first place and thus is not a part of this discussion.  Also outside of this discussion, obviously, are popular girls who have no BF and no placeholder and don't act like this.)

I knew a lot of this in Japan, but until coming to the States I didn't understand why a girl always feels like she needs the world to know he has a BF (yes, really he's just a placeholder).  Well, having a BF is the main contributor to her sense of pride and self-worth. It's no myth that cute girls don't have the personality or brains of ugly or average girls who haven't been chased by men their whole lives. So, in their small, twisted minds, they need to know that they're beautiful and that they're desired by men.  Because if they didn't have that to hold onto, they'd have nothing. And since these girls are very conscious of what others think about them, they need to keep the placeholder and are always open to an upgrade, even if they themselves aren't aware of it.


There many, many reasons, a girl would want to date any new guy: sex, fun, entertainment, boredom, free meal, notch on belt, pride, etc. I don't know how women have convinced society that men are the ones who get sex and then never see the women again, but I have never experienced this to be true neither with myself or anyone I know. Yes, there are exceptions but it's about 20/80. And Mr. Pimp is obviously doing it as a lifestyle and for fun because he likes sex. Women on the other hand--all women--seem to do this subconsciously. It's like a built-in mechanism to get as much from as many men as they can. Some actually want the sex. Some want to go out and have fun and be entertained because they're bored. Some want to tell their friends some guy with a Porsche took her to a fancy restaurant and she didn't answer when he called because she's too down-to-earth to be wooed by a rich man. It could be any number of reasons why they'll go out with a guy, but none of these reasons include that he's a viable suitor for a relationship--unless of course if he ends up being an upgrade to her placeholder. 

The most important reason, however--the one I've discovered most recently--is:

 Girls go on one-time dates with strangers to
 prove to themselves that they're liked!

They're insecure and want to know they're still beautiful. You see, Mr. Video Game guy might be fat at home playing a game, but he's secure because A) he has a degree in computer programming, B) he's super smart, C) he has a good job, D) he's going to Europe next year with his buddies. Subtract the fact that men want to have sex with her, what does the cute girl have going in her life? Absolutely nothing! And I really think that this is where huge problems lie for many men.

I knew there had to be a correlation between the differences I saw living in Japan vs the States, but I attributed the country's culture to those differences. Boy, was I wrong! It wasn't the country, it was the fact that Osaka is huge and where I am now is relatively small. Mix that together with the fact that desirable girls want nothing more than to be desired and it all fits into place. You see, girls in the big city don't need to you buy them dinner because they get hit on 20 guys a day who beg to buy them dinner. And they don't have to worry about cheating on placeholders because there are so many people sleeping with each other that no one has time to keep track of anyone else. Gossip reaches a much smaller percentage of the population. A hip, metro-cultural sexual relationship haven the big cities are!

Small cities, on the other hand, have a lack of men the average hot girl would even consider going out with, even if it is just for a free meal. First, in the instance where the guy is worthy, there'd always be the chance of seeing someone she knows. And she really has to watch that because she doesn't want word of it to get back to her placeholder.  Second, she can't have sex as freely because if the guy happens to tell 10 people, there's that much more chance someone will find out and she'll be called a slut, which is a biologically embedded fear of most girls. In a big city, however, there are so many people that she'll go unnoticed. (The next two reasons might contradict but in any situation it's a fact that wil contribute to society's views.) Third, there are fewer guys in the small city. Fewer guys means she has so many fewer to choose from. She can't just go sleeping with Mr. Friday Night because he doesn't exist. She needs to hold on to the placeholder she's got and not cheat because there are so few replacements. Finally, there are fewer girls in the small city. So, since no guys want to hit on the fatties, the girls in small cities are put even higher on a pedestal because percentage-wise there are so few of her. She can afford to act spoiled.  She's a superstar!

As an addendum, here are couple thoughts that might help out in situations that don't fit with the logic/theories above.  First, note the parenthesized paragraph above stating that some girls have true BFs and will not be dating you in the first place.  Also there are cute girls secure enough with themselves that that need neither BF nor placeholder.  There are true sluts who enjoy the lifestyle of freedom.  There are girls who are not really thinking about men but go on a date once a year, don't feel a spark, then go back to their lives.  None of these girls are included in this discussion and I haven't attempted to solve any problems associated with them.

Also, "cute" can often be read as "popular."  Thus, if a fat girl is giving you the problems mentioned in this essay, you might note that since you're interested she most likely has other suitors as well.  Finally, there's intimidation.  You're too rich for her and make her feel insignificant.  You're too handsome and muscular and you make her seem ugly by comparison.  Either that or she thinks you'll cheat or that you deserve better.  Maybe you turn her on too much.  You could talk in a way that makes her feel insecure. 

Then there's the simple fact that you might mess up something on the date, but this is rarely the case.  In most instances the girl has gotten to know a bit about you before the one and only date.  And she knew about your looks on day one.  Could it be like people say, she just wasn't into you?  If she's out with another guy within a week and you believe what someone with such a defeatist attitude says then you're selling yourself short.  Granted, most girls subconsciously crave the challenge of dating idiots so they can change them for the better then upgrade to an even bigger loser, but if you got to know the girl at least a bit before the date and didn't screw anything up, then there was nothing you could have done to prevent her not talking to you again.  It was a great date and she elected not to come in your house.  Goodbye kiss...forever.  She elected to come in and she was very open to sex.  Next morning sex again then...goodbye forever.  The girl in either situation, however, has just been forever appropriately stereotyped and categorized in this article.  And the world now knows. 



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