Series on Efficiency: No Level 3 Dates!

Letter from the Editor

Welcome to the Series on Efficiency, for May, 2008. The June newsletter is in the works. We are starting the series because we hate to see girls wasting guys' time. We don't participate in things that are a WOT (waste of time), whether it's girls or not. We want sex, and then we want to hang out or wine and dine the girls after. Why? Because we don't trust them. So we want it in that order. You may be thinking that girls want it the opposite way, and in many situations that's correct, but many other situations the girls try to get the wine and dine, the free English milkage, the experience of foreign dating, or the pride of showing you off to their friends without ever giving it up. Don't become a victim! Don't be Japanese and be used by girls who you aren't sleeping with! Sign up to our free newsletter today!

Date Types

There are three main types of dates:
*A) Sex date. Izakaya, karaoke, park, whatever it may be you take a girl on the same day you attempt to have sex with her.
*B) Time-wasting date. A time-filler date. You won't get sex this day, but this is used to bridge the gap between sex dates. Series on Efficiency sees these as a gamble, but sometimes necessary to keep a girl's interest--especially a girlfriend.
*C) Fun date. When you take a girl some where you actually want to go, or else spend time with a girl you enjoy being with, sex or no.

In No Level 3s, we're focusing on 1) sex dates or 2) time wasting dates with girls you haven't yet had sex with. First, let's look at the types as defined in the Japan Lair Wiki:
* Level 1. An arranged, traditional date between one guy and a girl
* Level 2. An arranged meeting including 3 or more members. Related terms: 合コン、コンパ
* Level 3. A semi-arranged, often hopeless meeting at a girl's work or a crowded party, club, or dance event

My job is now to convince you to not participate one very simple, very limited behavior. And this behavior is so narrow in scope, that my job might be easy. And my goal of this is not to get you girls or to increase your chances, but you save you time, and increase your efficiency. I'll rest easy knowing I've saved you time. How you spend it is up to you. This will also, guaranteed, increase your success on second time meetings (Day2s).

Case study

True story. Todd hunts Miki in Ame-mura, Osaka and they exchange emails (1). After a couple weeks, Miki invites Todd to her hostess bar (2). Todd is skeptical, and mails for more information (3). Miki tells Todd that she will pay for his drinks because if she gets a customer to visit her tonight she will get a pay raise (4). Todd is still unsure, but he goes (5). Todd has a good time, but he would have rather been home doing other things (6). When he's ready to go when one three things happens (choose your own adventure here): Todd has Miki pay for him and he leaves, gaining nothing (7a); she makes him feel bad for not paying and he leaves 10,000 poorer (7b); Miki tells him she'll pay him next time they meet (7b).

The story is over. Look at the results. If 7a, Todd participated in a 3-hour WOT. If 7b it was the same WOT, plus a waste of money. 7c might be the worst, because Todd not only had an unsuccessful Day2, he will have to have a Day3 just to get his money back. So, he will either not see her again to keep from wasting his time even more, or else he'll chalk it up and realize his $100 mistake. Does Todd want to be in the situation hoping a girl--from a country of girls who often flake on gaijin--will meet him again to cough up the dough? If he does get it, how bad and broke would that make him look? Either way, Todd is doomed.

Luckily, Todd is sensible and quit after sentence 2. After the last trains had passed (a seed for a future excuse), Todd mailed her for more info (sentence 3), and got it (sentence 4). Todd's reply to her: "I'm with three friends now, all gaijin. Two girls. You want to meet up after you finish work?" Todd wasted no time, didn't get the girl mad at him, and as a bonus, gave Miki an option to meet up with him. No WOT for Todd! In fact, he might have even improved his situation with Miki (because she pictures two sexy white girls).

No Level 3s!

And this story of Todd is no different from hundreds of other examples: "I'll be at this club next week, you want to meet here?", "I work at Starbucks, you should stop by!", or "Let's have lunch together in the cafeteria at school with you and my 12 friends." These are all Level 3 situations, and they are all dead ends. Of course, there is only one reason to go to these Level 3 Day2s: you hope that seeing her in a place which is comfortable for her will increase your chances of getting a Level 1 (Day3) with her.

You're in Japan. Girls are a dime a dozen. Girls who try to sucker you into a Level 3 (whether they have some exterior motive or else it's their option out of saying the dreaded word "no") are a nickel a dozen. And for some good news, 8s and up will suggest a Level 3 meeting at a much lower frequency than 5s and 6s who are on average less experienced with men (provided they aren't really young). They might have some use for you such as you being a customer, however, but they don't want English or pride from being with you.

Conclusion

So this is the end of our Series on Efficiency: No Level 3s. As a final tip, remember that some girls will invite you for a Level 3 meet up even if they're willing to get a Level 1. You're going to push for that Level 1 until she flakes, because you're not going on the Level 3 anyway, right? If you agree from this point on to not go on Level 3s, compare your successful date percentage to a time when you were being suckered into going on Level 3s. It's guaranteed to rise, because simply, "Let's do a Level 3!" is often a substitute for, "I'm not comfortable enough to see you alone (and I never will be)."

And as always, happy hunting!