Age Range for Possible Relationships

Okay guys, here we go. This is a big one for me! Ever notice how when you were 18-23 a lot of girls in the same age group weren't interested in you, but when they turned 26 or so they were suddenly keen? The charts below show the following somewhat shocking truths and more:

• Men's prime lasts at least 15 years
• High status men can be with women half their age
• Women in their prime can choose to date only the best men
• Beautiful women can get rich and handsome men of any age

Nearly two years ago I wrote an article entitled Can We Get 20 yo Girls at Age 35-40?. At that time it was important to me because I was worried that I wouldn't be able to get girls anymore if I were to leave Japan at 30 and return at 35. In this 2008 article I posted the following chart:


And now, two years later, I've proved to myself that getting 20 year old girls at age 30 not only possible, but perhaps even easier than when I was in my mid-20s! Getting girls 26 and over has become extremely simple, even to the point of ridiculousness. Due what I've learned I'm no longer worried about aging and how it will affect the girls I can get.

In the past couple years I've seen a lot of guys younger than me get married. I've seen old friends take what I would call less-than-adequate wives. I've talked to both guys and girls who around 25 who feel it's crunch time to find a spouse. Most recently, I've read the 500 page Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life by Gail Sheehy. It discusses both women and men feeling the need to hurry, women in their late 30s--married or single--feeling the need to utilize what's left of their bodies to have sex with random men, men having mid-life crises and wanting younger women, and more.

In my own life, instead of blindly marrying a less-than-ideal girl before I'm 35, I did my research and found that I should be in no hurry to find a wife. Why? Because when I'm 45 I can still marry a 27 year old and have kids. This is highly possible for a man in good shape with ample money. As far as dating only goes--and possibly marriage--if the man is rich or extremely handsome he could go even younger. With this, I present this chart of what age girls you can reasonably expect to date if you keep yourself up and give it a little effort. It's based not only on what I've read during my research over the past two years, but also what I've seen and even experienced myself.


The part of most interest to me is the black line along the bottom showing how men retain their value to younger women. Of course a broke jerk can't get the hottest young girls, but he can still date the younger average ones. I have plans to be in shape, have money, and maintain a youthful attitude and joy towards life when I'm 40, so I will still be able to dip into the pool of girls in their early 20s.

I hope this chart will help you steer clear of hasty decisions hampering fun, travel, learning, and adventure in your life. Finally, just for fun, let's look at the women's chart. Luckily they like older men because, as you can see, they don't really have much of a choice!


I hope this last chart has helped a bit in clearing up why the 18-24 year old girls treat men like crap--they have plenty of choices for BFs. And you can also see why as women age they are more and more willing to date and have sex with men who aren't their exact ideal. Thirty-five year old women can date men their age, but the highly desirable 35 year old men are either already taken...or are dating 23 year olds!

Tan-Blond Gyaru vs Regular J-Girls

We like tan-blond gyaru because they are the most aesthetically pleasing and sexually inviting to some of us. A lot of guys want to try these tan-blond gyaru, but since there are so few of them they are in high demand and their value increases due to rarity. Therefore they're hard to get. If they were prevalant and easy I just might have had my fill after sex with a few. In fact, I wish I didn't like them. But I do.

Of course without the makeup and flamboyancy they wouldn't be as interesting. In fact, the tan-blond gyaru group as a whole maintains only a slight advantage in Raw Beauty over many other groups of Japanese girls. The o-ne-kei and hostess groups would also fit this description because, in their teens, the way cute or sexy girls are treated by men seems to push them dress in a way that is more popular with guys. If this is hard to understand, why not look at it like a fetish for pregnant girls? Some guys like them. They are very hard to get too, mainly because they're only visibly pregnant for 6 months, but also because they've very likely to have a man they love. An infatuation with any group is no different that infatuation of that with another.

For me I'm trying to switch the infatuation over to incredibly hot European chicks because that makes the most sense; plus I like them nearly as much. Not to take anything away from Japanese, preggos, or tan-blond gyaru, but I don't want to regret not sleeping with a lot of these girls while I have the chance. I feel that to continue to strive toward the two tan-blond gyaru per month goal would be waste of time which could be spent on pursuits with greater personal benefits.

However, no one on earth can say I didn't "do" Japan to the fullest extent to which it is capable of being done. To do it deeper would bring the satisfaction of more sex with tan-blond gyarus; a satisfaction with shorter lasting benefits than those of other pursuits. For example, although getting naked with a tan-blond gyaru is still more intriguing to me than the same with a girl of any other group, I've been with a lot more of them than I have with hot white girls, so the benefit of the latter is higher. Plus this pursuit will take me to interesting lands to which I haven't traveled. As far as long-term relationships go, remaining in Japan I could pick any girl on the street and predict her personality. She'd take years to be able to fully enter English conversations. Alternatively, traveling to new places I may be wowed by personalities and find someone who fits with me better than any Japanese ever could.

In summary, I think I've explained both sides of the tan-blond gyaru vs regular J-girl argument. 1) My explanation of white girls shows that while there can be more beneficial pursuits, tan-blond gyaru are rare, hard-to-get, and are in high demand by many guys. Therefore, if you want to complete the challenge you have to make that stop, put in the effort, and sleep with a few before moving on. 2) On the other hand, it's also true that the personalities and Raw Beauty of this sub-group of girls isn't much higher than that of other girls--there are both fat as well as incredibly sexy gyarus. And besides the sex benefits, although some might have great personalities, the way they dress themselves has little effect on us other than sexually.

To conclude, to say these girls are ugly and undesirable is blinding yourself to a lot of truths. To degrade guys going for these girls says more about yourself than the guys taking action. Likewise, since pretty much any thin 18 year old can be a tan-blond gyaru if she so desires, to spend more than a few years chasing a style is wasting part of a precious life and effort that could be better spent on other pursuits.

The Middle Opener

Many guys ask me, "So what do you open with?" And I'm like, "Kind sir, do you mean, what do I say when I first start hitting on a girl?" (Now that we're on the same page) I tell them 'Dude, I don't know, I just say something.' But this isn't enough for many guys and they want to have something pre-planned or else they will lack confidence and not even talk to the girl. Many want a line that has been tried by pick up gurus and when they find these lines they use them to death! (not recommended).

Truthfully, if I think about what I'm going to say I'll lack the confidence to go talk to them too! But I usually don't think about it, and that's the key. I only think about how hot they are and by the time I'm next to them I just spit something out. Sometimes it's totally weird but usually it's quite normal. Anyway, here a few types of opening lines. In order of nuts that it takes to perform them: Lame, Middle, Semi-Direct, Direct:

Lame Opener - this is when you ask the time, where the station is, or what color teddy bear to buy for your sister. I call it lame because it's deceiving: you use a girl's goodwill to lure her into conversation, then you attempt the conversion from the "Where's the station?" situation to a topic that will get you in her pants. This is the easiest way to start a conversation. Its opposite is the Direct Opener.

Direct Opener - with this, the girl can see that you're interested in talking to her simply by what you say or how you approach her. If you come from behind and ask her name or say, "Hi, what are you doing right now?" then it's pretty obvious and straightforward that you're hitting on her because you think she's cute. There are definitely times--when you're short on time, for example--when this and only this attempt will work. You can even go a step further and start with, "Hi, want to go on a date?," or "What's your number?" (Not recommended, though. Guess I know this?)

Semi-Direct Opener - Instead of saying something blatant, such as with the direct opener, you comment on something in the environment. If you're on the train platform you could say, "The train is late." If you're walking outside you could say, "Your keychain is cool, can I have it?" (I've actually gotten a lot of trinkets and bracelets this way, even when they don't give me their numbers!) It's obvious you're into her, but at least you're starting a conversation to which she can quickly add if she's interested. Note that if the girl is walking away from you and you're coming from behind your only choice would be Direct or Semi-Direct. Doesn't work, you say? My ass it doesn't! Just not as frequently.

Conversational Opener - I thought of this here in America because it's barely different than what chatty old guys say to me. I've been doing it for years in Japan, but never really saw how I could categorize it before. If I'm shopping or standing in the checkout line some old guy might start talking to me about the weather, the local sports team, or Obama's proposed medical reform bill. I call this the Conversational Opener, because you're really just trying to talk to anyone who will listen. And if that person who will listen is a hot girl who likes you then you're in luck!

Middle Opener - The middle opener, then, is when you're already in the vicinity of the girl so you can say what you want to her (think old man in the checkout). Instead of blabbing about the weather, though, you make a comment that subtly shows interest after she thinks back of it, but to anyone standing near it's not a blatant come-on. An example in the check out line at Starbucks would be, "Whacha gettin'?" (If you saw her coffee and said, "I like mocca" then it would be semi-direct, because you've commented on the object, whereas you asking her a question shows you're interested in her choice, not the object itself, which shows more interest in her.) It's so good because, "Whacha readin'?" or "Whacha eatin'" just isn't the same, because you're showing interest in something already present (food, books, etc). But if you say, "Where ya goin'?" you're showing interest in her, through interest any place she may be going. It's so much easier than other ways of starting a conversation and there's no awkwardness trying to convert the conversation from "Do you have the time?" to "So, where ya goin'?"

And I can't think of any good conclusive paragraph to put here, so I'll just wish you good luck!