Girls' Uneasiness After Sex

Time of Unease
I'm referring to the time period after you have sex with a girl, whether that's the first day you met her, date 1, date 3, or date 6. Or, if you're too cool to go on dates--like this 18 yo douchebag Dave who enlightened me about women and said "I don't go on dates"--"meeting 1," "meeting 3," etc. This awkward period will end after you've dated (or "hung out with") her 3 or 4 more times. By this time you two are either a) BF and GF, b) sex friends, c) back to being regular acquaintances, or d) (and I'm positive this one occurs most often) haven't had 3-4 more dates and are no longer speaking to each other.

What Happens in the Time of Unease?

• First off all, for me, getting that girl to see me again has always been virtually as hard as getting a new girl to date me in the first place. I'm not going to let this post wander down this path though because although refusing to see me again is definitely a sign of unease, we've already posted and theorized a lot about this.
• Second, when I do get that next date after the first time we've had sex, I realized that the girl is actually LESS likely to come to my house than a new girl. Wow!! I feel they're thinking that I'm trying to use them only for sex (which usually isn't the case) and not going to my house would almost definitely prevent that.
• Third, when they do come to my house again and get into the same bed in which we've already had sex, they're LESS likely to put out than if they were a brand-new girl! Is this not an amazingly surprising statistic?!!

(Note, during this time of unease, I usually act normally and proceed as if she and I are going be seeing each other well into the future. I don't rush to bang her, but I do hope she stays over so I can bang her again after we're done hanging out.)

Why?
One thing I'm thinking is that the girls who DON'T see me again after sex are the ones who only wanted sex once (I used add "because I'm a gaijin" here but white girls are exactly the same!), thus they put out and never saw me again whereas the ones who do see me again are those looking for a relationship that includes more than sex.

Now, this is pretty technical and would take a lot of looking at photos to refresh my memory, but what this boils down to is my theory that girls who give LMR are those more likely to see you again because those are the ones who want a relationship, and in some twisted fashion they think that not putting out will make that happen or, and this is more likely, they think that not putting out will weed out the guys just looking for a piece of ass.

And I think we could test this theory by going through our old photos/memories and trying to remember if the
girls who who gave LMR were those who more often saw us again. Any correlation here would equate to us learning a lot!

Right?

NuBreed, Why Do You Succeed with Women?

A friend posted this question online and I thought about it and thought I'd post my answer here (I'll probably post something similar there, too).

Why I Succeed with Women

Inconsistency

I succeed when I maintain a level of inconsistency, whether consciously or unconsciously. If I mail/call the girl back when she wants me to, I don't have much luck. If I simply ignore her a third of the time--whether purposely or I accidentally--I find that keeps her wanting to see me. A couple months ago I simply forgot to mail the girl back for a whole month. When I finally remembered she seemed keener after a month. Before I learned this I was still able to get girls, but with it I get average girls much more efficiently and can get hot girls systematically instead of just being lucky.

Conversation

In conversation I never dive deeply into a topic she doesn't know or care about. That keeps me away from nerd status. If there is something I'm really into--used to be nuts over cameras--I would clearly state that I'm a nerd about it but won't go into boring detail. For other topics I try to keep the conversation surface level because for the most part no one really cares about your stories except you. I keep them short and elaborate when someone shows interest. At least a mention of a previous lover is always helpful. I never show that I've had sex with a lot of girls though. I usually say 20 but I'll say less if the girl hasn't had much experience and more if she's a big slut.*

What Hasn't Helped

Things that haven't helped are clothing and accessories. Never made a lick of difference except if what I was wearing made me uncomfortable. White T-shirt and flip-flops just as good as something nice. How long to wait to mail after getting a number or how long to wait to reply never mattered either as long as it was 33% inconsistent. Waiting for sex proved to be anti-progressive as over half of my first dates were last dates. "Kino" (touching girls on dates) didn't matter at all. Grabbing her hand to pull her across the street when the light turned green and letting go 2 seconds later was more than enough to let her know I'm not scared to touch her. Usually didn't even do that though.


* Don't know why I want to tell this story here but I was with two girls who said they'd been with 200+ guys. Odd that although I got to third base with both, neither let me get to homeplate. Kind of showed me that being a huge slut doesn't mean you'll easily bang a gaijin! If you search the site you'll probably find me saying, "sluts are harder to get." Why? Because sluts are usually fairly cute and cute girls are harder to get! Sluts have banged a lot of Japanese guys. This doesn't mean they want to bang milker-loving gaijin. Awesome revelation if you ask me but that's just me and I'm amused by small stuff!

Age Range for Possible Relationships

Okay guys, here we go. This is a big one for me! Ever notice how when you were 18-23 a lot of girls in the same age group weren't interested in you, but when they turned 26 or so they were suddenly keen? The charts below show the following somewhat shocking truths and more:

• Men's prime lasts at least 15 years
• High status men can be with women half their age
• Women in their prime can choose to date only the best men
• Beautiful women can get rich and handsome men of any age

Nearly two years ago I wrote an article entitled Can We Get 20 yo Girls at Age 35-40?. At that time it was important to me because I was worried that I wouldn't be able to get girls anymore if I were to leave Japan at 30 and return at 35. In this 2008 article I posted the following chart:


And now, two years later, I've proved to myself that getting 20 year old girls at age 30 not only possible, but perhaps even easier than when I was in my mid-20s! Getting girls 26 and over has become extremely simple, even to the point of ridiculousness. Due what I've learned I'm no longer worried about aging and how it will affect the girls I can get.

In the past couple years I've seen a lot of guys younger than me get married. I've seen old friends take what I would call less-than-adequate wives. I've talked to both guys and girls who around 25 who feel it's crunch time to find a spouse. Most recently, I've read the 500 page Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life by Gail Sheehy. It discusses both women and men feeling the need to hurry, women in their late 30s--married or single--feeling the need to utilize what's left of their bodies to have sex with random men, men having mid-life crises and wanting younger women, and more.

In my own life, instead of blindly marrying a less-than-ideal girl before I'm 35, I did my research and found that I should be in no hurry to find a wife. Why? Because when I'm 45 I can still marry a 27 year old and have kids. This is highly possible for a man in good shape with ample money. As far as dating only goes--and possibly marriage--if the man is rich or extremely handsome he could go even younger. With this, I present this chart of what age girls you can reasonably expect to date if you keep yourself up and give it a little effort. It's based not only on what I've read during my research over the past two years, but also what I've seen and even experienced myself.


The part of most interest to me is the black line along the bottom showing how men retain their value to younger women. Of course a broke jerk can't get the hottest young girls, but he can still date the younger average ones. I have plans to be in shape, have money, and maintain a youthful attitude and joy towards life when I'm 40, so I will still be able to dip into the pool of girls in their early 20s.

I hope this chart will help you steer clear of hasty decisions hampering fun, travel, learning, and adventure in your life. Finally, just for fun, let's look at the women's chart. Luckily they like older men because, as you can see, they don't really have much of a choice!


I hope this last chart has helped a bit in clearing up why the 18-24 year old girls treat men like crap--they have plenty of choices for BFs. And you can also see why as women age they are more and more willing to date and have sex with men who aren't their exact ideal. Thirty-five year old women can date men their age, but the highly desirable 35 year old men are either already taken...or are dating 23 year olds!