Strike Like a Snake!

This entry is how the desperation of wanting a girlfriend hurts you.  This is why nice guys looking for love never find it.  This is why "bad boys" and "mystery men" get the girls.  This is why the more girls you have the more you can get (because girls go for guys who don't pay much attention to them). 

Sometimes we forget and don't always follow the rules.  Recently, since I want a GF, I took a girl on a couple dates to the movies or restaurants.  I deviated from the old goal of banging her ASAP.  And I disobeyed the rule that says that chances are high I'll never see her again, so I might as well bang her on that first date.  But ignoring rules leads to failure.  Why do men find what works and try to change it?  Apparently women are not like this by nature.  I'm a man, so I will often fail.  Why is it easier to bang a girl on a three-day vacation?  Because you're forced to be quick!

She'll never see you again - I don't know if she will or not.  In my experience, only about a third do.  Since they only date me once, "Why not try to bang them?" a 21 year old NuBreed once decided.  A bit of lost wisdom if you apply it to the girl above.

Girls like mystery men - I know I'm not Mr. Attractive (which is 90% percent personality for men), so I have to strike why the kettle is hot.  I have to be the snake.  A slick, swift, snake who strikes at all opportunities.  If I don't, she sees me for what I really am: a nice, normal, intelligent, responsible guy--the opposite of attractive; and girls don't like those guys because...

Girls like bad boys - Or assholes.  Or losers.  Or troublemakers.  Why?  It's human nature to solve problems (see video games).  Solving problems is joyous.  If that loser BF gets a job while she's with him she counts it as a slice of personal success.  William Butler Yeats discovered: "Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that but simply growth, We are happy when we are growing."  Him growing equals her growing and thus her happiness.  Second, the bad boy gets the girl because being with him angers daddy or so many other normal social principles.  This makes her unique and thus cool.  Third, bad boys don't care about the slim chance that trying to bang her on the first date will piss her off.  And since the piss-off chances are slim, usually, they'll succeed. 

So, disclosing as little about me as possible before entering a sex location leaves me a Mystery Man.   Hiding my responsible nature and going for sex soon I can--temporarily, falsely, and deceivingly--present myself as a Bad Boy.  And since a "bad" thing a bad boy does is to strike like a snake, I am, in her eyes, through remaining a mystery man, the ultimate bad boy. 

Why will she never see me again?  Because I show that I want to see her again.  Telling a girl you like her or even want to see her again is a great way to get rid of her.  The fact that I even attempt to contact her proves that I've deceived her.  My actions toward quick sex show I'm a bad boy; contacting her again shows I'm not.  I'm no longer a mystery man, I'm just some sad sap who wants a GF.  And now that she knows this, she's done with me.  If you just walk her to the station after and don't suggest meeting again, you remain a bad boy and she will remember you as a bad boy who tricked her into sex by pretending you wanted a GF.  If you tell her you want to see her again she simply ignores you because she was really up for sex only all along.  You can't always win a GF, but you can often get sex. 

Strike like a snake!