In the US there are several dating websites, one of which I'm a member and manage to meet a girls every so often. After about two years of using this site, however, I've come to link a few things together.
The site allows you to upload a maximum of five photos, which I feel is adequate. Most of them are of girls' faces. The site is though, as you can guess, is full of fatties. So it's only normal that thin women, in addition to a few face photos, choose to show photos proving that they're thin. Of course I'm hoping for a bikini shot, and although some normal girls will have one, most just show a picture of them wearing jeans or a dress at the last wedding they attended.
On dating sites many girls can deceive if only showing a cute face, but the body shot soon shows that many of them are overweight
Here's a nice girl, simply showing in one photo that she's in-shapeThe provocative pictures suggests that these "party girls" thrive on attention. They don't want guys who show them little attention because they're intimidated by this type of guy. This type of guy may or may not have or have had better girls than her. However, if he doesn't show the right level of interest--if it's too high he's a lower if it's too low he's intimidating--she will not be with him. An example would be a guy who owns his own limo service which chauffeurs Czech models from LAX to Hollywood and has "dated a few." Can you see how the girl who's used to getting a lot of attention at the club would not want to be with this guy? She sees him as being too cool for her!
These girls need a PLACE to go where there are a lot showing them attention. They will use most of them for free drinks but that will be it. They'll end up going home with the guy who comes along at the right time and does or says something the opposite of the previous guy who failed. You see, it's not what you say or who you are, it's how she's feeling when you meet her. Granted, if you're good you can manipulate these feelings, and since doing so isn't the subject here, we'll just note the fact that girls' selection process and decisions are often based on rapidly changing emotions. Today you like him and tomorrow you don't. Today you sleep with a boring dork and tomorrow you turn down Johnny Depp. Or let's say it's just her and Johnny Depp in a cabin in the woods. Nope. She doesn't want it. She wants to be seen by others while she's with Johnny Depp.
The girls above are attention-whores. They feel, in their twisted minds, that all men are screwing them over. So they sabotage any chance of finding a nice guy by only going to meet men at bars and wonder why many of them are only looking for sex. Truth is, they really don't want a relationship; they want to feel special, so jump from guy to guy as the emotional high of being with a new guy wears off. Maybe you can see how, if you walk up to a girl like this in the grocery store you will almost certainly fail, regardless of who you are. And if you do try, the only line that might interest her is something like, "Hey, my friends are having a party, wanna come?" A one-on-one date isn't of interest to them because they need the attention of more than one guy. Any guy who sees a girl he likes and asks her out is a "creeper." God! Why isn't he at a party with his friends or something? would be an adequate description of how they think.
Which girls are these in Japan? They're hot ones, of course. There is MIXI in Japan, but the Internet photos don't help us determine too much. In the US, if they have a lot of sexy photos on Facebook or the dating site they they're the party girls we mentioned above. In Japan, however, the insecure, party girl personality girls show it not as much by Internet photos, but by clothing. I'm sure a good 20-30% of the girls in Japan have been prostitutes at one time or another, and a huge percentage of the white skinned, yet blond, curly, fake hair girls with excessive flair are prostitutes. Or just hostesses. Yet it means nothing. The look of hostesses and prostitutes is so common that we can make it simple and say these are the prime example of party girls. You could have the tan-gyaru style too, yet they are rare. Put simply, though, a girl who unnecessarily dresses up is the "party girl" and won't be too interested in any who isn't at the place that she considers to be cool. Of course the guys who attend events are her favorite club are her idea of "cool," and although the bartender or DJ might not dress the same, they're in too, because they're there and have reason to be.
Anyone can see that this girl's face wouldn't be the most beautiful without all the makeup, hair, and designer clothing and accessories. Doesn't matter, though, she wants to be part of the "cool" group and will only feel special spending time with a guy from that group. No one will pick her up on the streets because that wouldn't make her feel special. How can you get these girls? In the US, it's simple: make some guy friends and go to the club, bar, or party with them. The girls who are there are your targets. You can't get them walking down the street; you have to be IN THE PLACE that she considers cool.
In Japan you can't go to the dance event dressed like the guys there; you're white! Not gonna happen. It might happen with the ugly ones. Same type of girl, but they don't get much attention from the guys they really want. It might happen if you're in the right place at the right time. If you have a Japanese guy friend who's part of that "cool" group then you might find some success. For the most part, though, foreigners are not cool; and the only reason any foreigner bangs any hot girls like this is when the girl is--often secretly--interested in foreign men.
Can you see how, in the US, if you're not going to parties, bars, work outings, etc., it would hard to meet pretty women? I'm sure there's a way around this because I found a way in Japan, but here, since I can fit in, I'll just go to parties or clubs. In Japan all you can do is meet the girl, show that you're interesting and attractive, and hope that she's one who's not only secretly interested, but somewhat of a go-getter who's going to actually hang out with you. And you must...must!!...do it in a fashion that doesn't lead her to believe that it hasn't been announced to the word that she may soon be in a romantic situation with a foreigner.
