Traits I Look for in Girls

Here are the different characteristics of girls I like and the different stages they're capable of reaching if they have these traits.

Hunting

I only look for physical characteristics sexually appealing to when hunting. If see about 3 of the following she'll have grabbed my attention (in approximate order):

1. Bright colors
2. Skin showing
3. Dyed hair
4. Thin
5. Makeup

Deciding to Approach

Before going to pickup a girl I'd have to make sure she had these two:

6. Cute
7. Young

Given Traits for Keen Girls

While talking, if I noticed she had bad teeth, was too young or old, or was smelly or dirty I'd be turned off. In the initial interaction I'll need to be able to converse with her some, but even if not, as long as there are no turn offs, I'm ready for sex. From there it's her disqualifying me. But if she likes me, she is usually:

8. Keen
9. Nice
10. Talkative
11. Intelligence

After Date & Sex (Sex Friend)

From there we might date and have sex. If she fits most of the 1-7 Hunting requirements, and since the Keen elements 8-11 are usually given, I'd keep her around a while if at least one these are met:

12. Fun to be with,
13. Good body, or
14. Good sex

Girlfriend

If she fits nearly all of 1-7, is very strong in 8-11, and has both 12 & 13 (Fun and Good body), then I'd be her boyfriend.

Very Long Term/Marriage

I'm not married yet but I think when that point comes I'll need to see a lot of the following:

* Have future financial goals
* Clean - as in housekeeping
* Not jealous
* Cheap - as in not wasting money
* Similar interests - traveling, outdoors, fun restaurants, drinking, etc

Different Mindsets Regarding Sex. Determined by Looks, Actions, and Kissing

Here is some info about how what you observe in a Japanese girl can help you have sex with her. To me, being able to determine an outcome, or know how to proceed towards sex just by observing a girl's looks, actions, speaking style, etc., is the best skill you can have.

I'm still looking for the big breakthrough, but even now how have so many little things that I can observe that help me know what step to take next. In the raw form it would be something like, "All girls who have boots are easy...proceed quickly," "Girls who meet you at 11 pm want sex...take her to your house," or "All girls who are in college want BFs only and sex scares them...proceed with caution."

Before we get to the types let's look at a few other things.

Kissing (K-Close)

Have you ever gone for a kiss and the girl shies away? How about she shied away one time, but not the next, then she shied away again? Confusing, right? Wouldn't it be nice to know what she's thinking? You can! Just Paypal me $9.99 and you download....just kidding, it's free!

The type of girl she is--her type of thinking, rather--will determine if she kisses you passionately and professionally, just kisses you, lets you kiss her and doesn't kiss back, shies away, or runs away! Here are some possible explanations:

• Kisses back passionately - she'll likely be up for sex (and maybe nothing more)
• Shies away - she might want to date you but not like how fast things are progressing
• Runs away - she thought you were just friends and is scared
• Kisses you back normally - you don't know yet and need more info
• Lets you kiss, but doesn't pucker up - she doesn't know yet and needs more info
  

Personally, I'd say that if I tried to kiss a large percentage of my dates on the street or in the restaurant they wouldn't let me. That doesn't mean we wouldn't have sex though, it would just mean that it's too soon to kiss, or else it's out of place.

Seducing Girls

I have to add this section to do my part to help the world get along with each other and help couples keep happy relationships.

Guys, who have become good at getting women in bed but don't know how to treat them afterwards, are often labeled seducers, jerks, playboys, etc. If you nail a chick and never see them again, you're a jerk, hands down. Maybe she doesn't want to see you again, or maybe she doesn't answer your calls again. Heck, you don't even have to arrange to see her again. HOWEVER, if she gave you sex AND she tries to see you again, you must. Do it, or to me, you're a jerk; and I will understand if girls say you seduced them.

Hold on, though, because some girls are seducers too. On countless occasions I've had sex with girls who, after sex, had never contacted me again. At first I was puzzled and tried to call them. Then I wisened up and didn't even get their phone number, so I just send them a text the next day saying I had fun with them. Heck, they'll even block your text sometimes! But, I learned. Guys like us have to learn and respect their feelings: they want sex, so we give it to them. When they get it, they're gone. The symbiosis cycle completed after one date. Do NOT get mad at these girls. They are sluts, yes, but we like sluts, right? They give us what we want, so we give them what they want and leave them alone when we're done with them.

Beware, though, because some of these seducing women are jerks too. They actually lie to themselves to make themselves not feel so slutty! I've had girls tell me something like, "You tricked me, I didn't know we were going to have sex!" and I'd be like like, "Huh? We were making out and you committed as much to it as I did! Plus, you're the one who ignored me after! I thought it was a start to a relationship!"

In short, girls like this get the sex they wanted which will satisfy them for anywhere from a few days to a few months, and they blame you for their need; their slutiness.

I don't get this much anymore though, because I know how to deal with it. I can't go into a lot of details here, but to prevent this from ever happening, maybe 10-15 minutes after sex, tell her, "Wow, I didn't expect to have sex tonight. But, you are so sexy I couldn't control myself. It was great!" You see, that way, you're taking the blame off of her for her. She doesn't have to do it herself. And, you might have even made yourself a new friend or a new sex friend. You see, I told you I'd help keep people in happy relationships!

I think "seducing" a girl to do something she might not want to do is kind of like talking to the little voice inside of her and that voice is what gives up the sex. Afterwards, when she isn't horny that little voice goes away and she thinks for herself again. It's really bad when guys learn this, but don't learn how to treat the girls nicely afterward. It's like becoming a black belt but not learning that you shouldn't go around beating up people with it. Be a nice guy.

4 Different Type of Mindsets Regarding Sex

1. Girls who just want sex once, maybe because you're a foreigner. These girls are the blondest, youngest, hottest, and most likely to be hostesses. (Generally younger and easier.)
   
2. Girls who may or may not want you as a BF. They're deciding. They definitely don't want sex on the first date, though. Doing something extreme, even a kiss before the time is right, might scare them off. (Younger, hard.)
   
3. Girls who don't care, and will give it up if you simply touch their leg and turn them on. (Older, easy)
4. Girls who are just thinking of being friends and don't want sex. They will scare if you even sit by them or hold their hand. This is the type easiest to lose on. (Older, hard.)

Type 1 girls are my favorite looks-wise. They will be the passionate and professional kissers, most of the time. However, some inexperienced ones might want sex but not really know how to kiss so well yet, so they might just let you kiss them and not kiss back. Or, they could be shy, too. These girls might not talk to you after sex. They are the hardest to date, because they like Japanese guys, but once you do get a date with them, they'll give it up easily. You can tell more by how they look and act than by how they kiss. They might be mad at you for seducing them, but not likely. Since they wanted it anyway, it's likely they'll just ignore you afterwards as you've given them pleasure. Maybe meet once more, mail a few times, but mainly, you have to be prepared to kiss her sexy a*s goodbye!

These girls will likely change to become type 3. If they feel guilty for their past slutty actions they might move into type 2 to find a steady BF to make up for their "sins."

Type 2 are characterized by being nice girls. They are basically type 4s, but they actually like you. They are looking for a BF, and trying you out to see if you fit. They will scare if you go for a kiss too soon because they don't want a playboy. If they do kiss you back, it doesn't necessarily mean sex, it just means that she thinks it's a part of your newly progressing relationship. She still knows she can stop and flake at any time. If you seduce girls like this, they might be mad and blame you. They will probably never be a hostess and are likely in college. They're fragile so you have to treat them that way. After sex you have to let them know that you were thinking about it but couldn't help it. You have to say you'll see her again, or else she'll hate you.

Girls in this category will change! They won't stay like this forever. As they get older and more experienced (read seduced) they'll move more towards type 3, in extreme cases maybe type 1. However, if the girl simply doesn't see you as an ideal BF, she'll be type 4 around you and type 2 around other guys.

Type 3 girls are down for whatever. They're for sure not thinking about sex, but if it happens, they don't care. Or, they may just be to carefree (or unintelligent) to go with the flow. These girls are fun and you can make them a GF, have sex with a few times and say goodbye, make them a sex friend or a "regular," etc. They may have previously been another type of girl. They probably won't change unless if they start to feel guilty and become a type 2. They might change based on if they have a BF or not, and be a type 4 towards you.

Type 4 is what I would weed out if I had a way to see it before hand. If anyone has any advice on this let me know! It's a waste of time to date them. I've had type 4s at my house before. Some will get up and move if you try to sit next to them. I had one who wouldn't leave the entranceway of my house! Some are just so shocked that a gaijin is thinking of having sex with them. Some even don't see see gaijin as an appriate sexual partner, so are offended and disgusted that you would try to make a move on her. Some of these might be like this because they have the American ideal of not cheating on their BFs (they think it's the Japanese ideal and think Americans cheat but that's a story for another day). If she won't even sit next to you on date one, date two is usually a WOT.

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So, there you go. I'd say I get these girls around 1/4 of the time each. I have sex with over 75% of the girls I date and most of the losses would be type 4s. I can seduce the type 4s sometimes, and will try if I'm in that position. It's worth a shot, right? Type 1s have always been the hottest. Type 2s can be as hot as type 1s, but not percentage wise. If the girl becomes your GF it's likely she was type 2 (although there are exceptions). Type 3s are nice, but generally not as hot. Let me know if this helps at all!

Skills to be a Top Japan PUA: Top-Ten Countdown

There are a lot of guys living in Japan who need help meeting women, so they consult the mainly online PUA community to get advice from the PU gurus in the US. These gurus have not been to Japan, therefore, when they say, "this works on all girls everywhere," they're not being entirely truthful. If you're reading this it's obvious that you're interested in Japanese women. So, when you search for advice about how to get these women, wouldn't it make sense to place more value on advice from someone who's been successful with Japanese women over several years and place a lesser value on what American PUA instructors advise? Judging by the low success rates of guys in Japan practicing this material, I think it's time to try some new things!

In short, very little of the advice given by these gurus matters one bit. You could do it, or you could not do it, either way, there are completely different factors which make all the difference. I'll go over a few main traits that someone would need to have to get the hottest girls in Japan. I'm not talking about the girls your foreign friends fool themselves into thinking are the hottest girls, I'm talking about the girls the coolest Japanese guys have trouble getting. I call them 8s and above. These traits will also help keep a high success rate when dating 6s and 7s. Most foreign guys dates 4s, 5s, and 6s. Granted, the below the traits work for these girls too, however, you don't have to meet all criteria to be successful! Even with all these traits, the hotter the girl the harder she'll be. That's always a given.

The Traits

1. Japanese. If you don't speak any Japanese you're limited to under 5% of the population. The cutest girls don't speak English (see why here) so that 5% is limited to the more average girls. So, if you want to be a PUA, sarging the hottest Japanese girls, Japanese is the most important factor. It heads our list. Learn it!

2. Common Sense. I'm sticking this in the number 2 slot because it includes so much. When you're picking up a girl can you sense if she's uncomfortable? Are you leaning too close or touching her too much? Are you being pushy about trying to date her now instead of just getting her address and texting her later? Is her friend coming and you have to hurry up and get her number before then so she's not embarrassed giving her number to a gaijin? Did you put two and two together that she has to be somewhere at a certain time so you won't have time to get her home on the date? This deserves a book of its own, but we don't have time for that. For now, you either have common sense or you don't. If you don't, the next trait can actually nearly overcome it.

3. Experience. This is a biggy so it's up at number 3. While someone who has a lot of common sense can come to Japan and pick up right away, someone with experience will learn to pickup through trial and error and from that point on be able to pickup for life. I've always had common sense and did fine when I first got to Japan, but, now, I'd say experience is more important and gets me laid more often than common sense. Why? I've been doing this for years, so I've pretty much seen everything and know what works and when.

4. Quick-thinking. This is kind of hard to explain, but I'm including non-KY here, so it's at number 4 on our countdown. KY, in Japanese, means someone who can't understand the situation at hand and behaves inconsistently with that situation. A quick-thinker rarely does something KY. Also, here we need to include how fast your brain recalls memories or draws conclusions and makes connections to something a girl mentions. If you can make a connection quickly you can converse better. Also, if you're a quick thinker, even if your Japanese isn't great, you might be able to dig through the data base which is your head and find the possible meaning of a word.

5. Non-Clueless. Some guys have no clue how to treat women. Some guys talk about what they did in college or high school. Does anyone really care, especially a hot girl? No. Some guys take girls on dates to clubs and get them taken by other guys. Some guys waste time going out with a girl and all her friends and wonder why she'll never meet him for a Level 1 and have sex with him. This is simple to overcome: think!

6. Plan ahead. What are you going to do with that girl who you're meeting tonight at 7 pm? You know she'll be 30 minutes late, right? Then you go to dinner at 7:45 and you're finally done after nine. You didn't have her drink a beer on the street before going in the restaurant, so she's hasn't even had enough to lie to herself that she's drunk and let herself have sex with you. Plus your house is like 30 minutes away, so you won't be there until 9:45, and her last train is 11. Do you really think you'll succeed? Plan ahead, or don't meet her! Scenario two: meeting a girl at a random station. How are you going to bang her if you haven't even researched where the hotels are?

7. Shy or out-going? You definitely can't be shy. You have to talk to girls. If I didn't talk to girls I'd get about 2 a year. If you're really good-looking maybe a few more, but still. An extreme form of shyness could actually be number one on our list. If you're shy, I've got some material to help to overcome that. Contact me!

8. Settling. I see guys settle for girls because they are easier to get. They tell themselves that they like these girls because they are just as good as the hot ones if the hot one didn't have all the makeup on. Uhh, yeah, but if you're reading this you should know that that's the point. We want the hottest girls! You may have all of these traits and more, but if you settle for your 6-rated GF then you're not going to be picking up that 8 are you?

9. Arrogance. If you're too arrogant, espeically to the girl, she's gone. I see this problem sometimes.

10. Desire. Rounding out our countdown would be actually caring. This can be similar to 8, whereas you can get a hotter girl, but you settle for another one just because she's there. But this is a bit different in that you think a girl is a girl, so you just go for whatever, or, you have that sex friend you're banging so you don't desire a newer, hotter girl, and therefore you don't get one.

Well, that rounds out my little top 10 list. I know it's not a good top 10 list but it sounds cooler that way, huh? I think we need a new category on the very top: 0. Going out and trying! But, that's a given. Here are a few more. They're physical, so the degree plays a part in importance. Obviously if you're 80, 300 pounds, or look like Billy Jim-Bob with three teeth and cow sh*t on your shoes you're not getting anything!

Appearance. You're born with your raw looks, but you can do a lot to change your appearance. For one, dress nicely. I didn't say you have to dress expensively, I said nicely. You can sport a T-shirt and jeans and still be dressed nicely. But no holey jeans, dirty shoes, etc. How's your hair? Is it plain or styled? Styled is best, but don't overdo it or you're looking like a playboy. Do you smell nice? Do you reek of cologne? No one likes that either!

Weight. Foriegners are on average about four inches taller than Japanese, and we know there are a lot of true stereotypes about foreigners being fat. Are you overweight? It for sure isn't going to help you. The portions are smaller in Japan and while it's hard to eat perfectly healthy, everything is pretty much on the healthy side, whereas in the US you can have either very healthy or very unhealthy. Keep the calories down. No extra helpings of rice! And exercise. Sex is good exercise, so you get double the benefits with this one!

Age. What's the ideal age to get the hottest girls? Well, first of all the hottest girls are 18-22, and they usually like guys 5-10 years older. So, since this post...this blog is about the hottest, I'm going to say the ideal age is 25-30, give or take. 40 year old going for an 18 year old? It's not that it can't be done, but it's harder. A 22 year old going for a 22 year old? Can be done, but harder. I think you get the point here. Personally, I can't really say at what age I was in my prime (related post) because experience has overtaken all and to this day I continue improving!