Why Girls Like Dumb Guys

Wow, I kind of noticed something else again today. This one was again prompted by something I saw today. Again this is something that has to do with all girls, Japanese included, but I might not have realized this had I not played the dating game in both places.

The realization
I moved into my current apartment not only because the price was right, it was clean, and I have a garage, but also because maintenance man seemed reliable. He looks about 30, average build, average looking, but he's, well, kind of slow. Not retarded, but lower IQ. Doesn't take a genius to paint and cut grass, but he seemed...manipulatable (?) and would agree to whatever I wanted done with the apartment before I moved in, show me other rooms on my demand and time frame, etc. Really passive guy. Anyway, I've been here a couple months and I ran into the cleaning girl who was vacuuming the stairs outside my door. She was about 24, tall, blond, extremely cute and from our conversation seemed really smart. I liked her so I found out a bit about her, such as she's going to grad school. But, I stopped when I found out that her BF is the maintenance guy. WTF!

Girls Choosing BFs of Lower Intellectual Capacity
And then it dawned on me that so many of the young, hot girls who AREN'T dumb, such as the ones in college who know where they're going in life (I think there are fewer of these in Japan but still) date complete douchebags. Even in Japan, when a girl is cute and smart, even if she's not in college often you'll hear stories about her B-kei or hostboy retard BF and you're like WTF? Here, the young cute girls love the douchebag wiggers, stoners, or bums.

Why?
And I think one reason this is is because since this type of girl generally knows what she wants, she has to find a guy who will go where she wants to go and do what she wants to do. Mr. 84 IQ isn't going to argue with her about important things in her life--such as moving to a new city with her for school or work--he's just going to follow along, like a puppy dog. And reason 2, I think, is that it's a challenge for a girl to help these guys along. Maybe it's a nurturing motherly instinct to help change these bozos and retards.

The Opposite Type
Of course whatever we say can't sum up the world, because there will always be the more passive girls who either a) can't think for themselves where they want to go on a date so always have the guy choose, b) are so dumb that all guys are above her intellectually, c) aren't attractive so don't have many choices so have to settle for whatever guy they find. In the case of c) I see many great guys who are with unattractive girls because the girls who know what they want don't want a guy who also knows what he wants. Here, the fatties might be smart, but since they have to take what they can get they may be with a more controlling, confident man (like most of us); although they might actually want to be the one in charge. In Japan, many women are extremely passive to begin with, never think, and take on the what I'm calling the lower IQ roll by default.

Girls' Uneasiness After Sex

Time of Unease
I'm referring to the time period after you have sex with a girl, whether that's the first day you met her, date 1, date 3, or date 6. Or, if you're too cool to go on dates--like this 18 yo douchebag Dave who enlightened me about women and said "I don't go on dates"--"meeting 1," "meeting 3," etc. This awkward period will end after you've dated (or "hung out with") her 3 or 4 more times. By this time you two are either a) BF and GF, b) sex friends, c) back to being regular acquaintances, or d) (and I'm positive this one occurs most often) haven't had 3-4 more dates and are no longer speaking to each other.

What Happens in the Time of Unease?

• First off all, for me, getting that girl to see me again has always been virtually as hard as getting a new girl to date me in the first place. I'm not going to let this post wander down this path though because although refusing to see me again is definitely a sign of unease, we've already posted and theorized a lot about this.
• Second, when I do get that next date after the first time we've had sex, I realized that the girl is actually LESS likely to come to my house than a new girl. Wow!! I feel they're thinking that I'm trying to use them only for sex (which usually isn't the case) and not going to my house would almost definitely prevent that.
• Third, when they do come to my house again and get into the same bed in which we've already had sex, they're LESS likely to put out than if they were a brand-new girl! Is this not an amazingly surprising statistic?!!

(Note, during this time of unease, I usually act normally and proceed as if she and I are going be seeing each other well into the future. I don't rush to bang her, but I do hope she stays over so I can bang her again after we're done hanging out.)

Why?
One thing I'm thinking is that the girls who DON'T see me again after sex are the ones who only wanted sex once (I used add "because I'm a gaijin" here but white girls are exactly the same!), thus they put out and never saw me again whereas the ones who do see me again are those looking for a relationship that includes more than sex.

Now, this is pretty technical and would take a lot of looking at photos to refresh my memory, but what this boils down to is my theory that girls who give LMR are those more likely to see you again because those are the ones who want a relationship, and in some twisted fashion they think that not putting out will make that happen or, and this is more likely, they think that not putting out will weed out the guys just looking for a piece of ass.

And I think we could test this theory by going through our old photos/memories and trying to remember if the
girls who who gave LMR were those who more often saw us again. Any correlation here would equate to us learning a lot!

Right?

NuBreed, Why Do You Succeed with Women?

A friend posted this question online and I thought about it and thought I'd post my answer here (I'll probably post something similar there, too).

Why I Succeed with Women

Inconsistency

I succeed when I maintain a level of inconsistency, whether consciously or unconsciously. If I mail/call the girl back when she wants me to, I don't have much luck. If I simply ignore her a third of the time--whether purposely or I accidentally--I find that keeps her wanting to see me. A couple months ago I simply forgot to mail the girl back for a whole month. When I finally remembered she seemed keener after a month. Before I learned this I was still able to get girls, but with it I get average girls much more efficiently and can get hot girls systematically instead of just being lucky.

Conversation

In conversation I never dive deeply into a topic she doesn't know or care about. That keeps me away from nerd status. If there is something I'm really into--used to be nuts over cameras--I would clearly state that I'm a nerd about it but won't go into boring detail. For other topics I try to keep the conversation surface level because for the most part no one really cares about your stories except you. I keep them short and elaborate when someone shows interest. At least a mention of a previous lover is always helpful. I never show that I've had sex with a lot of girls though. I usually say 20 but I'll say less if the girl hasn't had much experience and more if she's a big slut.*

What Hasn't Helped

Things that haven't helped are clothing and accessories. Never made a lick of difference except if what I was wearing made me uncomfortable. White T-shirt and flip-flops just as good as something nice. How long to wait to mail after getting a number or how long to wait to reply never mattered either as long as it was 33% inconsistent. Waiting for sex proved to be anti-progressive as over half of my first dates were last dates. "Kino" (touching girls on dates) didn't matter at all. Grabbing her hand to pull her across the street when the light turned green and letting go 2 seconds later was more than enough to let her know I'm not scared to touch her. Usually didn't even do that though.


* Don't know why I want to tell this story here but I was with two girls who said they'd been with 200+ guys. Odd that although I got to third base with both, neither let me get to homeplate. Kind of showed me that being a huge slut doesn't mean you'll easily bang a gaijin! If you search the site you'll probably find me saying, "sluts are harder to get." Why? Because sluts are usually fairly cute and cute girls are harder to get! Sluts have banged a lot of Japanese guys. This doesn't mean they want to bang milker-loving gaijin. Awesome revelation if you ask me but that's just me and I'm amused by small stuff!