Tan-Blond Gyaru vs Regular J-Girls

We like tan-blond gyaru because they are the most aesthetically pleasing and sexually inviting to some of us. A lot of guys want to try these tan-blond gyaru, but since there are so few of them they are in high demand and their value increases due to rarity. Therefore they're hard to get. If they were prevalant and easy I just might have had my fill after sex with a few. In fact, I wish I didn't like them. But I do.

Of course without the makeup and flamboyancy they wouldn't be as interesting. In fact, the tan-blond gyaru group as a whole maintains only a slight advantage in Raw Beauty over many other groups of Japanese girls. The o-ne-kei and hostess groups would also fit this description because, in their teens, the way cute or sexy girls are treated by men seems to push them dress in a way that is more popular with guys. If this is hard to understand, why not look at it like a fetish for pregnant girls? Some guys like them. They are very hard to get too, mainly because they're only visibly pregnant for 6 months, but also because they've very likely to have a man they love. An infatuation with any group is no different that infatuation of that with another.

For me I'm trying to switch the infatuation over to incredibly hot European chicks because that makes the most sense; plus I like them nearly as much. Not to take anything away from Japanese, preggos, or tan-blond gyaru, but I don't want to regret not sleeping with a lot of these girls while I have the chance. I feel that to continue to strive toward the two tan-blond gyaru per month goal would be waste of time which could be spent on pursuits with greater personal benefits.

However, no one on earth can say I didn't "do" Japan to the fullest extent to which it is capable of being done. To do it deeper would bring the satisfaction of more sex with tan-blond gyarus; a satisfaction with shorter lasting benefits than those of other pursuits. For example, although getting naked with a tan-blond gyaru is still more intriguing to me than the same with a girl of any other group, I've been with a lot more of them than I have with hot white girls, so the benefit of the latter is higher. Plus this pursuit will take me to interesting lands to which I haven't traveled. As far as long-term relationships go, remaining in Japan I could pick any girl on the street and predict her personality. She'd take years to be able to fully enter English conversations. Alternatively, traveling to new places I may be wowed by personalities and find someone who fits with me better than any Japanese ever could.

In summary, I think I've explained both sides of the tan-blond gyaru vs regular J-girl argument. 1) My explanation of white girls shows that while there can be more beneficial pursuits, tan-blond gyaru are rare, hard-to-get, and are in high demand by many guys. Therefore, if you want to complete the challenge you have to make that stop, put in the effort, and sleep with a few before moving on. 2) On the other hand, it's also true that the personalities and Raw Beauty of this sub-group of girls isn't much higher than that of other girls--there are both fat as well as incredibly sexy gyarus. And besides the sex benefits, although some might have great personalities, the way they dress themselves has little effect on us other than sexually.

To conclude, to say these girls are ugly and undesirable is blinding yourself to a lot of truths. To degrade guys going for these girls says more about yourself than the guys taking action. Likewise, since pretty much any thin 18 year old can be a tan-blond gyaru if she so desires, to spend more than a few years chasing a style is wasting part of a precious life and effort that could be better spent on other pursuits.

The Middle Opener

Many guys ask me, "So what do you open with?" And I'm like, "Kind sir, do you mean, what do I say when I first start hitting on a girl?" (Now that we're on the same page) I tell them 'Dude, I don't know, I just say something.' But this isn't enough for many guys and they want to have something pre-planned or else they will lack confidence and not even talk to the girl. Many want a line that has been tried by pick up gurus and when they find these lines they use them to death! (not recommended).

Truthfully, if I think about what I'm going to say I'll lack the confidence to go talk to them too! But I usually don't think about it, and that's the key. I only think about how hot they are and by the time I'm next to them I just spit something out. Sometimes it's totally weird but usually it's quite normal. Anyway, here a few types of opening lines. In order of nuts that it takes to perform them: Lame, Middle, Semi-Direct, Direct:

Lame Opener - this is when you ask the time, where the station is, or what color teddy bear to buy for your sister. I call it lame because it's deceiving: you use a girl's goodwill to lure her into conversation, then you attempt the conversion from the "Where's the station?" situation to a topic that will get you in her pants. This is the easiest way to start a conversation. Its opposite is the Direct Opener.

Direct Opener - with this, the girl can see that you're interested in talking to her simply by what you say or how you approach her. If you come from behind and ask her name or say, "Hi, what are you doing right now?" then it's pretty obvious and straightforward that you're hitting on her because you think she's cute. There are definitely times--when you're short on time, for example--when this and only this attempt will work. You can even go a step further and start with, "Hi, want to go on a date?," or "What's your number?" (Not recommended, though. Guess I know this?)

Semi-Direct Opener - Instead of saying something blatant, such as with the direct opener, you comment on something in the environment. If you're on the train platform you could say, "The train is late." If you're walking outside you could say, "Your keychain is cool, can I have it?" (I've actually gotten a lot of trinkets and bracelets this way, even when they don't give me their numbers!) It's obvious you're into her, but at least you're starting a conversation to which she can quickly add if she's interested. Note that if the girl is walking away from you and you're coming from behind your only choice would be Direct or Semi-Direct. Doesn't work, you say? My ass it doesn't! Just not as frequently.

Conversational Opener - I thought of this here in America because it's barely different than what chatty old guys say to me. I've been doing it for years in Japan, but never really saw how I could categorize it before. If I'm shopping or standing in the checkout line some old guy might start talking to me about the weather, the local sports team, or Obama's proposed medical reform bill. I call this the Conversational Opener, because you're really just trying to talk to anyone who will listen. And if that person who will listen is a hot girl who likes you then you're in luck!

Middle Opener - The middle opener, then, is when you're already in the vicinity of the girl so you can say what you want to her (think old man in the checkout). Instead of blabbing about the weather, though, you make a comment that subtly shows interest after she thinks back of it, but to anyone standing near it's not a blatant come-on. An example in the check out line at Starbucks would be, "Whacha gettin'?" (If you saw her coffee and said, "I like mocca" then it would be semi-direct, because you've commented on the object, whereas you asking her a question shows you're interested in her choice, not the object itself, which shows more interest in her.) It's so good because, "Whacha readin'?" or "Whacha eatin'" just isn't the same, because you're showing interest in something already present (food, books, etc). But if you say, "Where ya goin'?" you're showing interest in her, through interest any place she may be going. It's so much easier than other ways of starting a conversation and there's no awkwardness trying to convert the conversation from "Do you have the time?" to "So, where ya goin'?"

And I can't think of any good conclusive paragraph to put here, so I'll just wish you good luck!

Hot Girls Who Are Ugly By Comparison

Here's a simple technique that can get you not the hottest girls, but girls much hotter than the normal foreigner gets in Japan. In fact, these girls will only look hot AFTER you've seen them a second time. You'll see why later. If you're not going for the most popular, hard-to-get A-class girls then you can skip this one. If you're stubborn and think you deserve to date out of your league, then this is for you!

First, a note on hotness. Foreigners in Japan usually get girls who are average or even below average. A 5 is average, and foreigners, most of the time, date within the 3 to 6 range. But, you must know that most foreigners rate these girls 8s or 9s, because, as they say, "she's cute to me." NuBreed Nampa doesn't care what you think or what we think, we care what everyone thinks, thus we care what the Japanese guys who hit on them think, because that determines a girl's popularity and her need to settle for a guy less than her ideal. And since the average girls are largely ignored by desirable Japanese guys, they are--quite obviously--average 5s.

Anyone who knows anything knows that you can't simply walk up to any 8 (which is extremely hot, BTW) expecting to get her. You'd have to try quite a few just to get a phone number. But something I've noticed, is that in the presence of 8-9s, A-class 6-7s appear average, and no guys hit on them! You yourself may not even notice them. It took me years to realize this! In fact, many of these 6-7s may be actually waiting to be hit on!

Trance Dance Club

I used to go to this club in Osaka called Joule (useless homepage here) where all the tan-blond gyarus (examples: 1, 2, 3) and other beautiful girls go to dance to trance music. I was completely ineffective on the dancefloor because I'm not Japanese, I'm not a gyaru guy, it's loud, girls are interested in the DJ and not the guys around them, etc. Plus it's so loud in there that I can't even talk to my friends, which requires much less effort than talking to new girl I want to sleep with. In short, I say it's impossible for a white foreigner to pick up the 8-9s on that loud, smoky dance floor. I gave up trying.*

Besides the hot 8s and 9s on the dance floor with their friends, there are still plenty of 6-7s to be had. In this club, they are the lower class (besides foreigners, of course!). These girls are still cute and may even been the same age as some of the 8-9s. Some may actually be more physically beautiful too, it's just that they aren't dressing as glamorously. And they just might be waiting for some guys to talk to them! All the guys are focused on the 8-9s on the dance floor, so these 6-7s could be lonely! I got myself a few nice girls this way.

The Beach

I wasn't planning on mentioning the beach here, but writing the above I was reminded that the beach is the exact same situation! On the beach (or in any club for that matter**) I would always find the hottest girl and work my way down. I'd either lose on her, note that she's with a BF, or note that she's in a crowd and keep my eye on her. On any given day on the beach there could be as many as 50 girls 7.5 or higher! That's the highest concentration ever! I would work my (non) magic and talk to them. After a couple hours I would be dead tired and disheartened that I only got the numbers of a couple out of the 30-40 girls I talked to. They might have been 8s, but the chances of a beach 8 replying is close to zero (want to ask me how I know that?).

A couple times I picked up a 6.5 or 7 on the beach, enjoyed her company, had sex, etc. Off the top of my head I can remember three that actually came up to me because guys weren't talking to them! I closed the deal on all of them. But, what really made me understand what was going on were two girls in particular. I was in Japan 3-4 years at this point so it was nothing I realized quickly. I hit on a girl, but ended up getting her friend's number and nailing her. At the time I wasn't interested in that 7 on a beach full of 8-9s! But, looking at her pics while not on the beach, she was cute!

And finally, another one was when I hit on a blond. She was friendly, but passed me to her friend because "she like gaijin." I dated that friend for several months and I don't think anyone would deny that she was cute. I've showed her picture around more than usual because she was actually my GF for a time and both Japanese and foreign guys liked her a lot. She was very important to me for the better part of a year. And to think that I almost didn't get her because I was stupid and let my eyes be distracted by by blond hair and suntans. She wasn't an 8, but she was a 7, and I was very happy with that.

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So anyway, that's just something I learned. If you're not going for the hottest girls anyway then this post isn't for you. Maybe you're not as stubborn as me and think you deserve the most popular girls in the first place, so maybe this post should be a lesson to only to myself!?


* You're damn right I was waiting for them as they left the dance floor for the bar or the bathroom though! ;)
** And now at work, for that matter. Ha!