The Hottest or the Easiest?: The 1-Point & 2-Point Separation Rules

Have you ever been in a situation where you know two girls you can potentially sleep with but since they know each other, you can only choose one of them? I used to have that problem but now I have a couple rules that help me make the decision. You kind of have to understand the objective rating scale for this to work (*see below).

The 1-Point Separation Rule:
pick the easier of the two
take the easiest of the two if they are separated by 1 point or less on the rating scale

A sure 6 is much better than an unsure 7 just as a sure 7 is much better than an unsure 8. Look at risk vs reward: you're only getting one point of reward but taking a risk of getting nothing from either. Remember, you can't go for the hottest one, fail, and then go for the other one! (or could you? Hmm....)

Exceptions would be when you get into the higher ranges your own experiences would come into play. For example, I don't know anyone who's nailed a 9.5 but I personally have had some 8.5s. So if it were me I would go all-or-nothing for the rare 9.5. If you're relatively new, though, I would obey the 1-point rule here because an easy 8.5 is NOT easy to come by!

The 2-Point Separation Rule:
pick the hotter of the two
try for the hottest of two if they are separated by two or more points on the rating scale

Let's say you meet a 6 who is mildly attractive and probably pretty easy. But you're not hard up and know you can get 6s relatively easily. And then you have her friend, an 8. She doesn't seem too interested in you so if you choose her you might end up with nothing.

So a 6 in the hand or an 8 to coax out of the bush? For me it's a no brainer. As is a sure 7 vs an unsure, very rare 9. You don't get 8s everyday but you can probably get 6s pretty often. Take the risk! The only exceptions might be a 3 vs 5 or 4 vs 6, where you don't care too much either way so just take the easy one night stand.

*(The rating scale says that 5s are average, 6s are cute, 7s are hot, 8s are really hot, 9s are amazing, 10s don't exist.)

Email & Hunting Game

I had an email exchange with someone who mailed me after reading my blog. He mailed, I mailed back, and here are his responses to my mail:

Nubreed: Right before I left I learned how to have sex with girls on the beach. You probably need a wing, but you only need him to isolate the other girl during the other 10 minutes when you're banging.

PD: Very interesting. I've gamed on the beach and at the pool, but the O [name edited] and I don't know how to take things further. Where do you take them to have sex on the beach? Is this done at night or something?

NuBreed: BTW, here's a hunting game I used to play with my friends. You can teach [your friend]. When you go home, you have to have over 10 points. Scoring:

*10 pts: getting a girl's number
*8 pts: talking to a girl for a few min and asking for number (and not getting it)
*1 pt: making a serious attempt to talk to a girl, regardless of her reaction
*1 pt: passing a girl your business card or paper with number on it (because they only reply 10% of the time)
*-1 pt: just waving, saying "hi" only, or any other half ass attempt
*-1 pt: seeing a SINGLE girl walking slow or standing alone very open to be talked to and not talking to her

PD: Sounds cool. At the rate [my friend] gets numbers on the street I think he'd be in triple digits pretty fast.

It's funny because recently I came up with a pickup "Game" of my own. It was a lot more complicated and I'll be posting about it in the Pickup Lounge before posting the first FR. I'm sure it won't be everyone's cup of tea but I certainly had some fun with it and it definitely improved my game.

NuBreed: Did you like my little "PUA Quadrant?"

PD: I checked out your quadrant from your blog. Very interesting concept.

NuBreed: Situations like this is what I feel I was good at. I didn't have routines or kino (I NEVER touch them)

PD: Now this is really interesting. O is a bit of a fan of yours too and he'll be blown away when I tell him you NEVER touch them. In the past I've had a reputation as the "Iceman" because I never made any physical moves. O though, is the complete opposite. He says he has to hold himself back because he naturally wants to kino them. We ran into some problems using too much kino last time and I'll go into that in a later FR. Fascinating that you don't use it at all in the early stages.

NuBreed: I know the exact time the last trains come in, so by her location, dress, and walking direction, I can tell make an educated guess where she lives and where she's going! I simply walk up and say, "Hey, aren't you from Sakai?" If no, I say, "Oh, thought I saw you there, anyway....blah blah blah." But if I'm right, I'll just be like, "Yeah, my friend lives there. I swear I saw you at the station!" And there you go, I'm in. That's why the rating scale is so important too. Clothing is a window into their personality.

PD: This is hardcore and very impressive. I like the concept of cold-calling because it's so much more interesting than asking questions. I often say "You play basketball" or whatever, instead of "What sport do you play?" That way I'm either a psychic or they have to refute it. You're taking it a step even further with your knowledge of Osaka and their clothing etc. I'll have to work on this.

PD.

Are You a PUA, NuBreed?

Even when the pickup acronyms weren't outdated the majority of them seemed pretty childish to me; except the ones I made up myself. ;) The labeling thing seems stupid, but we all do it subconsciously when judging if guys are fit to be our friends. If I'm a dart-player and fisherman and you are too, then we'll get along. It's just that we don't call ourselves "DP" or "fisherman," rather, we say, "Hey, you like to fish too? Man, we should hang out sometime," and someday you fish together. "Are you a PUA?" sounds dumb, and I'd never say it, but we used to ask new guys we'd meet: "So, how are the ladies treating you?" Depending on their answers, we might have a beer with them sometime and afterward talk to a few girls. Same process but just doesn't sound as weird as "Are you a PUA and if so will you be my wing to sarge some sets?"

So although I don't like the label, if PUA means "guy who's devoted a certain period of his life to attempting to pick up increasingly hotter girls by continuing to study them," then I'm no exception to the PUAs in "The Game," just not as lame. Any way you slice it I am a guy who picks up girls. I didn't go to Japan to improve my lifestyle, learn which songs to sing at karaoke, or learn about fashion. I went to pick up hot, so I'd say I'm "certainly a PUA." And although I don't do it the way Mystery teaches I've never met anyone in Japan who does it Mystery's way who picks up girls any hotter than the average girls I got my first year or two in Japan. If pickup skill has three levels--3-good, 2-average, 1-bad--I and most of the guys I was/am friends with in Japan found themselves going from 2 to 3 at some point. I think the Mystery-style stuff is only good for helping someone go from 1 to 2, but those techniques can never move you past 3. You have to do that on your own. When I tried it I think I went from 3 back to 2. It's like riding a tricycle. Sure, the tricycle's easy to learn and will get you to the next neighborhood, but when you finally take the time to learn to ride a bicycle (i.e. study Jap, study women) you can go faster and further with less effort.