Series on Efficiency: No Level 3 Dates!

Letter from the Editor

Welcome to the Series on Efficiency, for May, 2008. The June newsletter is in the works. We are starting the series because we hate to see girls wasting guys' time. We don't participate in things that are a WOT (waste of time), whether it's girls or not. We want sex, and then we want to hang out or wine and dine the girls after. Why? Because we don't trust them. So we want it in that order. You may be thinking that girls want it the opposite way, and in many situations that's correct, but many other situations the girls try to get the wine and dine, the free English milkage, the experience of foreign dating, or the pride of showing you off to their friends without ever giving it up. Don't become a victim! Don't be Japanese and be used by girls who you aren't sleeping with! Sign up to our free newsletter today!

Date Types

There are three main types of dates:
*A) Sex date. Izakaya, karaoke, park, whatever it may be you take a girl on the same day you attempt to have sex with her.
*B) Time-wasting date. A time-filler date. You won't get sex this day, but this is used to bridge the gap between sex dates. Series on Efficiency sees these as a gamble, but sometimes necessary to keep a girl's interest--especially a girlfriend.
*C) Fun date. When you take a girl some where you actually want to go, or else spend time with a girl you enjoy being with, sex or no.

In No Level 3s, we're focusing on 1) sex dates or 2) time wasting dates with girls you haven't yet had sex with. First, let's look at the types as defined in the Japan Lair Wiki:
* Level 1. An arranged, traditional date between one guy and a girl
* Level 2. An arranged meeting including 3 or more members. Related terms: 合コン、コンパ
* Level 3. A semi-arranged, often hopeless meeting at a girl's work or a crowded party, club, or dance event

My job is now to convince you to not participate one very simple, very limited behavior. And this behavior is so narrow in scope, that my job might be easy. And my goal of this is not to get you girls or to increase your chances, but you save you time, and increase your efficiency. I'll rest easy knowing I've saved you time. How you spend it is up to you. This will also, guaranteed, increase your success on second time meetings (Day2s).

Case study

True story. Todd hunts Miki in Ame-mura, Osaka and they exchange emails (1). After a couple weeks, Miki invites Todd to her hostess bar (2). Todd is skeptical, and mails for more information (3). Miki tells Todd that she will pay for his drinks because if she gets a customer to visit her tonight she will get a pay raise (4). Todd is still unsure, but he goes (5). Todd has a good time, but he would have rather been home doing other things (6). When he's ready to go when one three things happens (choose your own adventure here): Todd has Miki pay for him and he leaves, gaining nothing (7a); she makes him feel bad for not paying and he leaves 10,000 poorer (7b); Miki tells him she'll pay him next time they meet (7b).

The story is over. Look at the results. If 7a, Todd participated in a 3-hour WOT. If 7b it was the same WOT, plus a waste of money. 7c might be the worst, because Todd not only had an unsuccessful Day2, he will have to have a Day3 just to get his money back. So, he will either not see her again to keep from wasting his time even more, or else he'll chalk it up and realize his $100 mistake. Does Todd want to be in the situation hoping a girl--from a country of girls who often flake on gaijin--will meet him again to cough up the dough? If he does get it, how bad and broke would that make him look? Either way, Todd is doomed.

Luckily, Todd is sensible and quit after sentence 2. After the last trains had passed (a seed for a future excuse), Todd mailed her for more info (sentence 3), and got it (sentence 4). Todd's reply to her: "I'm with three friends now, all gaijin. Two girls. You want to meet up after you finish work?" Todd wasted no time, didn't get the girl mad at him, and as a bonus, gave Miki an option to meet up with him. No WOT for Todd! In fact, he might have even improved his situation with Miki (because she pictures two sexy white girls).

No Level 3s!

And this story of Todd is no different from hundreds of other examples: "I'll be at this club next week, you want to meet here?", "I work at Starbucks, you should stop by!", or "Let's have lunch together in the cafeteria at school with you and my 12 friends." These are all Level 3 situations, and they are all dead ends. Of course, there is only one reason to go to these Level 3 Day2s: you hope that seeing her in a place which is comfortable for her will increase your chances of getting a Level 1 (Day3) with her.

You're in Japan. Girls are a dime a dozen. Girls who try to sucker you into a Level 3 (whether they have some exterior motive or else it's their option out of saying the dreaded word "no") are a nickel a dozen. And for some good news, 8s and up will suggest a Level 3 meeting at a much lower frequency than 5s and 6s who are on average less experienced with men (provided they aren't really young). They might have some use for you such as you being a customer, however, but they don't want English or pride from being with you.

Conclusion

So this is the end of our Series on Efficiency: No Level 3s. As a final tip, remember that some girls will invite you for a Level 3 meet up even if they're willing to get a Level 1. You're going to push for that Level 1 until she flakes, because you're not going on the Level 3 anyway, right? If you agree from this point on to not go on Level 3s, compare your successful date percentage to a time when you were being suckered into going on Level 3s. It's guaranteed to rise, because simply, "Let's do a Level 3!" is often a substitute for, "I'm not comfortable enough to see you alone (and I never will be)."

And as always, happy hunting!

Can We Get 20 yo Girls at Age 35-40?

Recently I've been involved in the personal dilemma about whether I should pursue my career in the US or stay in Japan and meet more new girls. I'd come back to Japan, but I'd be older than I am now. I've been thinking a lot about how age will effect girls' perception of me. Will I be able to get as many and as hot of girls when I'm 35 or 40? When I was early/mid-20s I figured I needed to be in Japan before I was too old to get young girls. Five years later I'm not only able to get younger, hotter girls, but they are easier to get! I don't work as hard, either. I just got used to talking to them, I guess. But there has to be a limit to where experience can overcome the negative effects of aging.

The chart is by no means perfect and will be different for every guy, but you can see where there will/might be a peak. That peak, for me anyway, is going to be somewhere after 30 because I'm still improving and gaining experience. However, let's say my experience has and always been where it is now, then would I be better at 25, 35, or even 45? I may never know.



Here's something we can all do: ask girls we know about what age guys they would go for and post your comments below. I asked a girl the other day if, in the right situation, she would just go to dinner alone with (a picture of a 60 year old golf-clothes model on the sign). She said yes if she didn't have a BF. He was good-looking for 60. She's 19. In my experience if you can get them to go with you on a Level 1, one on one date, then you can usually get them in the sack. Could the 60 year old guy nail her? She's pretty cute. I don't know. Maybe when I'm that age I won't be interested in 20 year old Japanese girls, but it's kind of fun to think about! When I'm 40 I think I can get 20s, even the hottest ones that I like now. I don't think it will be as regularly or easily as now, though, but I'll take em!

I'll get back to you in 10 years on this one :)

UPDATE: I found this online. A friend showed it to me after reading this article. If you're 35-40 and are worried about get 20 year old's, he suggested that you study this article and recite it to yourself when you're picking up a 20 year old Hott. Older men, enjoy!:

Younger women often enjoy the company of older man for a variety of reasons. A very common reason that many women turn to older men is that these men are more mature than the men their own age. Women mature faster than men and therefore want to be with a man who is closer to them in maturity level. Women do not want to date a man who would rather play computer games then spend time with her. This is not a problem with an older man.

Some women, and in particular those who have an absent father, look to an older man as a type of father figure or mentor. This is often a mutually beneficial arrangement for both parties involved. A woman will receive guidance and gain more life experience from being with an older man while the older man gets to feel that he is powerful and is looked up to by the woman.

Men who are mature also tend to be worldlier and more self-confident as they know themselves better, which is something that attracts younger women. Older men are more experienced sexually but tend to have less of a sex drive but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man their own age tends to be. Not being as drive by testosterone often makes older men better in bed than younger men, according to some women. Older men often view pleasure in a different light than younger men and are more concerned with the woman’s pleasure as opposed to their own. This makes them very appealing to younger women.

Older men tend to be more steadfast and stable and are generally more established and settled in their chosen careers than are younger men. The security that comes from being financially viable and well established is traits that tend to draw younger women to older men in droves. An older man is no longer in college or struggling away at a low paying job but is secure and generally doing well at his profession.
Women like the chivalry that older men often show and they like the fact that older men tend to have more respect for them and they are polite and have manners. Women like men who know how to be men. In today’s society many young people are delaying growing. Most women want to be with men who are responsible and can stand on their own two feet and are able to support themselves and take care of themselves without their mother’s help. Most women do not want a man who is supported his parents. That is why many younger women seek out the company of an older man.

(http://www.mamashealth.com/dating/olderman/default.asp)

My Profile and Introduction

This was originally written in June 2007 (updated May 08). It's kind of random, and a lot of the topic header content (and a lot more) will be expanded in other posts. Of course I'd been picking up Japanese girls for several years when I first wrote the profile. However, it was kind of self-introduction to the members of the Japan PU community, a certain group of foreigners living in Japan who apply the mass of (mostly American) PU community knowledge to picking up girls in Japan.

I've been in Japan a couple different times. This time it's been nearly six years. Each time I came it was mainly for girls. I like several different aspects of the country, but if I had no opportunities to meet hot chicks, I'd be gone next week. For years I felt alone, being the only one this interested in getting girls. I have them systematically categorized in my phone and computer. I'm a nut to anyone else, so I was very happy to meet other guys online, in Japan at that, who liked Japanese girls as much as I did.

PUA

I’ve always picked up girls, but until 5 months ago I hadn't heard anything Mystery and other PUAs. I'd never heard any terms in Mystery's glossary and hadn't even heard "PUA." Since then I've read "Game" and "MM." Reading the books made me feel like less of an outcast that there are actually more freaks out there like me. I’m glad!

I’d say that about half of the material in MM is stuff I’ve learned from my own experiences. Some of it was actually surprising. I was like Hey! He stole my tricks! I think another 25% is stuff that you learn through common sense, such as not asking a girl if you can sit down as that gives her a reason to say no. Some guys who don’t necessarily lack common sense, but are so nervous around girls that they lack ANY sense. These guys are not losers, just shy. I think Mystery has done a great thing with many guys’ lives.

About 25% of MMs material I found to be potentially good in a club or social situation in the US, but not for white guys hunting girls on the streets of Japan. Therefore, it doesn’t apply to that aspect, which consequently is my specialty. Some of the stuff in the book was really good that I hadn’t thought about before and was able to put to good use in my pickups. Thanks, Mystery! And finally, I found some of the content basically useless and/or impossible. Then again, some of that stuff includes Mystery’s personal routines which aren’t part of the regular text but are mentioned in the margins of the book or given as examples. These are fine for him. Heck, whatever works. A lot of what he says would never work for me, so I stick what I know.

My Type of Girl

I like several types, but I'm pretty picky, and it might be hard to pick out what kind of girl I'd like. I like the dark skinned blond gyarus. I like any girl with a cute face. I like B-kei girls. I like any girl with a sexy body who's showing skin. I like them around 20 years old. I have pictures of most girls I’ve been with. Some have been really nice. I won’t lie and say I haven’t had my share of 5s, though. Hell, I’ve even had a 3 or two.

Ratings

I rate girls 0-10. I have never given a 0 because that would mean a girl would like a she-wolf...AND be fat! I have never rated 10, either, but I'm not saying I never will. When they make a computer program so I can take the face and body of my favorite two 9s and mix them together, and when I can add the perfect tits, and makeup, and hair, and everything else I want, only then will I have a 10. Until then, 9.5 is the highest, and I make that rating about once a year (and I live in a busy area). I will rate a 9 about once every month or two. 8s are visible daily in the busy areas. But if I happen to see an 8 alone I will probably jump on no matter what I'm doing, maybe even if I'm dressed bummy and sitting on the train. To me a 7 is a very cute girl and I'd be happy to date a 7. Fives are average no matter how you look at it. And what I rate 6s are what most foreigners in Japan rate HB8s. I'd date a 6, but probably wouldn't be her BF unless if she were really, really nice...and 18! ;)

Rating a girl is very easy. It takes me one second. However, describing it would take a ten-page essay. Above I tried to give a "how often you see..." example to show how I rate girls. But, I don't rate by the mean, average or frequency, I rate by the envisionable beauty content, meaning girl A's face with girl B's teeth and girl C's ass, etc, would be the ultimate envisionable girl, and she'd be the top. If you make one better, or if your tastes change, your 10 drops down to a fraction below 10. This will never happen though.

If I see a girl with an 8 face and an average body, I still give her a 7 or so. If she's dressed sexily and tanned with good makeup, I give her an 8 for sure. If she's dressed like an old lady, I give her a 7, or maybe even lower. It's not a fair rating, but it's not like I can guess what she'll look like with make up or anything. Now, if I see a girl with a 3 face, but an 8 body, I won't give her an 8, or even a 7, because the face sometimes counts as more. But, if she's showing her bright green g-string and stomach and has a dark tan and great makeup, her 3 face and 8 body would probably put her up at a 6 or so. If she's a bum and leaving me to guess what her body looks like, she remains a 3. We met a 3 with a great body like this and I gave her a 6 overall. Damn was she ugly though.

Here's a simplified scale:
10 - Goddess - only in fantasies
9 - Seen once a month in busy areas, if that. Worth being late for work to get her
8 - Girls I see foreigners with only a few times a year
7 - A very cute girl. Great catch for a GF
6 - Not GF-able unless if really, really cool, but decent and worth dating for sex
5 - Average
4 - Below average. Would say yes if she comes over on a Wed night and brings food
3 - Would say yes if drunk and haven't had sex for weeks
2 - Hideous. Must pay me for sex
1 - 400 lbs and hideous
0 - Werewolf -only in fantasies

Desirability

So, sometimes I ignore ratings and give a "Desirability Rating." This is a how-much-I-want-to-nail-her scale. If she's a 5 or 6 and has something I desire, but if that something doesn't really make her more beautiful, then I still rate her a 5 or 6, but give her a higher Desirability Rating. Some factors that might count towards a high desirability rating are (these are not necessarily my personal fetishes): cute feet, pierced tongue, big tits, thin waist, tan-lines, extra tall, short skirt daily with hot pink G-string exposed, etc. Example: "That girl's a 5, but she's 185 cm, so I want to nail her as much as I would a regular 7." Anyway...

”Machine Gun Nampa”

Think of Mike Tyson interrogating you in Japanese with lefts and rights of personal questions. Envision that, and you have Machine Gun Nampa. I surprise girls sometimes because I forget I'm a foreigner and just talk to the girls exactly as I see the Japanese hostboys do. Hostboys really bring it, baby. Four guys, 60 seconds, 100 questions. I know now that personal questions can creep a girl out sometimes, but I still attempt to replicate their confidence and cocky attitude. They were my only teachers for years. I have picked up and fucked girls who didn't even ask where I was from or discuss anything foreign because I keep the conversation topics and style 'in their world,' I guess you could say.

Speaking Japanese

My strength would be speaking Japanese. I speak Jap well and know all the slang used by the girls I pick up. I think strictly doing this works against me, though. Maybe even the girls being able to speak to me just like they can speak to Kenta-kun makes me more normal, and therefore less interesting to them. So, I purposely slow down and say some things in English occasionally just to keep my gaijin-ness and be more of what they think I'm supposed to be: a dumb, but exotic and entertaining foreigner - who they can respect because he knows two languages. All in all, the comfort a girl feels by speaking to a foriegner in her own language outranks any other technique you could learn

Streethunting

In the past 2 years, nearly half of the girls I’ve slept with have been picked up on the street or in the train or train station. However, this is the hardest way as most won't even look up to tell you to go away. My goal: "I just came up to make you smile. If you smile, I'll leave" or "I know you don't want to talk, just say 'goodbye,' and I'm gone." They jump through my hoop, I win. Up me one point on the confidence scale and on to the next girl! However, I don't talk to just any girl. If no one is biting, maybe 5 per hour, or so. You can't be an animal or it'll come through in your personality, I think. Also, you’ll give gaijin a bad reputation. If you really care that little about what kind of girl you hit on, and if you go for 60 per hour, please go to a gaijin bar or something and save other foreigners some face. Oh, and NEVER insult any girl who doesn’t talk to you. Just think that she’ll be more willing to talk to you next time… when she’s not on the rag!

"Solohunt 2.0" (rules governing "Constant Hunt")

This is kind of stupid, but it works for me. It’s something I've made up because all but like 1 or 2 of my wings have left me here to fend for myself. It's basically a set of rules I have to follow everyday to ensure I'm not shy when I see a cute girl. Examples:

*I will not be a pussy when I see a target standing solo.
*I will leave home 10 minutes early everyday, just to make sure I have time to talk if I see that 9 (well, I'd be late for work if she were really a 9, but anyway...).
*I will talk within 10 seconds, or I will leave, and be forced to go home and write down WHY I didn't talk to her, and what I should have done.
*If I'm on my bike, in my pajamas, forgot to comb my hair, etc, I will show her how cool I am by being able to sit on a piece of crap bike in flip-flops and jogging shorts and still have the balls to talk to a NB7.

Other Sarging Locations

Appx 15-20% of the girls I've gotten have been when I'm alone, hence the Solohunt 2.0 guidelines. It's soooo hard to get the courage to talk to someone, but when you do, it's usually after you get a smile or something, so chances are higher she's interested. And, I'd have to say 30% are from clubs. However, I went to the club ZERO TIMES in 2006. So what's that say?: that clubs are a copout and the easiest place to pickup. Even though I don't go so much, they still make up a large portion of the girls I get

Tan Blond Gyaru

To be able to have sex with 1-2 tan, blonde, sexy gyarus per month is my goal. I would move to another city to be able to do this. Now, I can only get a couple a year. I talk to a lot, but many ignore me. If I squeeze the email address out of them, they will change it within a week and never see me again. That said, I have been more successful in this category than any other foreigner I’ve met in my life. These girls just don’t want foreigners. I’ll take the few who do!

Future Goals

My goals have changed. From a PU standpoint, I’ve always wanted to to improve in the tanned, blond, gyaru category, the hardest, most beautiful girls in the world. But now, my goal is to at least semi-cure my addition. I actually have a great GF who I’ve been with over a year. She’s better than all of the girls I pickup, but still, I’m addicted. I think the only cure for me would be to leave Japan. So, for the past year I’ve been studying to leave Japan and go back and start a career in the US. I won’t be tied to the US totally, though. I love Japan, and the girls, and I want to be in this country. But I want to be in the US to make money. So I’m working on a plan to live a month here, a month there, or something similar. Think about it: most of us work 5 days a week leaving 8 days off per month. If I visted Japan for two weeks, that would give me 14 days off. I’d actually have time to meet new girls just visiting Japan as compared to living and working here. I’d also have time to travel and meet guys with similar insterests across the country.